My boyfriend & his sister are very close, i am very close to her. The 3 of us are best of friends. The problem is her boyfriend. She has rose colored glasses on w/ him & can't see the controling jerk that he is. OK fine, she's not stupid & will eventually figure it out.
The problem is until she does we feel it is neccesary to be somewhat nice to him - out of respect for her. But each day it gets harder - because now not only does he try to control her - he tries to control us. When we try to explain to her how we feel she gets very defensive. We don't want to hurt her but how much are we supposed to take? My boyfriend just avoids him & since they are in a different town that is easy to do. But i live in the same town. And i am really begining to HATE her boyfriend. He seems to think since i am in the same town that we should be best buddies as well. When in fact i've got to the point that i detest him. Any suggestions no how to deal w/ this peacefully so no one is hurt.
2007-02-21 16:11:17 · 2 answers · asked by purple dove 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her that you very much dislike her boyfriend's company, and therefore will avoid it in the future.
And tell him a sanitized version of the same thing.
Emphasize that these are YOUR feelings, and she's free to do whatever she wants.
2007-02-21 22:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it, she will have to learn on her own. the only thing you can do, is stay away from them.
2007-02-21 16:16:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋