I am talking to this guy that I have known since high school. We met over my break and did a lot of catching up that turn into a mutual attraction. He mentioned that he had done some things in his past that he is not proud of but not the whole story. It was not until last night that he told me the full story. He was put in jail twice and both times it was due to pyschotic ex girlfriend. I've never been the type to date this kind of guy but he is really sweet to me. Neither time was it his fault but I am just not sure how my parents would view him and if he has shaken old habits like he says. I am only 21 but I am looking long term and he can't really be who he wants to because of this incident on his record. Should I give him the benefit of the doubt or should I tell him that his criminal record has made me second guess?
2007-02-21 16:10:25 · 7 answers · asked by from_me_to_you 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what if you were a ugly person and lose too and allowed every one to board you at the drop of a hat but you find Jesus, does he hold that against you? no the golden rule applies here, you could have issues that you are not aware of but take your time and make sure you know all the truth before you commit.
2007-02-21 16:18:01 · answer #1 · answered by Right 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you SURE it was all completely the fault of his psychotic ex girlfriend? I'm just saying that cuz I have a pair of those of my own, and there's always two sides to any story...
On the other hand, if you really like him, you shouldn't let someone else ( Not me, his psycho ex G/F, OR your parents) decide for you. Everyone can give you advice, but YOU'll have to take the choice.
But, it's not so bad. Remember, when we choose someone, we don't choose them once, we 're choosing them everyday above all the others... or not, and that's when relationships die.
In any case, you might give him a chance, and if you see him going back to his old habits, talk to him, loud and clear, and set the score straight... Or, just drop-kick him out of your life.
Hope this helped, and good luck!
2007-02-22 00:23:50 · answer #2 · answered by San La Muerte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, he was put in jail 'cause of his girlfriend....hmmmmmm.....do you really believe that?
the jails are full of 'innocent' men who were framed for something or other, or took the fall for a friend, or were in the wrong place at the wrong time. men who aren't even man enough to own up to what they have done, they have to blame someone else! like your friend is doing! and he can't really be who he wants to be 'cause of this incident? please..........
sorry, i was raised by my mother while father was in jail, never his fault, never his doing, but he always took the fall. he would get out of jail and stay out long enough to get her pregnant and go right back into the joint. every month we made the trek to the prison to visit him for an hour. is that really how you want your life to go?
if i were you i would give him the boot, there are plenty of decent, honest, hardworking men out there......you don't need an ex-con in your life. you're looking long-term you said. you have no idea what life will be like with an ex-con, i do, its not nice, its pretty bad. and it would take hours to tell you just a portion of what it was like. from a kids' point of view as well as a grown adult's point of view.
get away from him. now. please.
2007-02-22 00:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by tess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I would be real careful with this one.It's real easy to make up a story about a crazy ex, and filter out details.
A couple years ago I met a guy witha past. Found out he was on probation, got the story about the crazy ex. Well I was skeptical but went for it any way. Lets just say it ended with me giving a police statement and him skipping town before he went to jail.
He might be okay, either way take it slow, and watch for those signs that might point to him being a loser.
2007-02-22 00:17:46 · answer #4 · answered by krissy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only thing i can say is find out what happen ur self dont just beleive his story because he might be leaving out some stuff or changing some stuff around. this is just for ur safety
2007-02-22 00:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by torres 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok it is never as simple as she got him thrown in jail, he had to have done something. if you have problems with this, then walk away.
2007-02-22 00:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont realy know his situation but you sound pretty intelligent to me. look within your heart if he hasn't been true to you find someone that will you" deserve that "
2007-02-22 00:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by anthonylopesrich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋