me and my bf have been together about 7or8 mths. the past 2 mths he found out i made out with another guy the first month we were together things started going downhill very fast we stopped seeing eachother as much he was rude 2 me all the time said that i broke his heart and never let me live it down. this past month we have broken up and gotten back2gether over 7 times&appearantly imbetween those times he has had sex with his ex gf that came into town again this month and he told me he still has feelings for her but that i could trust him talking to her and hanging out with her. I heard he was trying to hook up w/her again from his friend and just recently the past few wks he did.He told me he was confused & that he needed to be single for a while and that i should wait for him and that he still loves me mre than any girl we werent supposed to hook up with other ppl but he did and i found out. I told him 2 make up his mind within the next few dys & 2 call me,whats he thinking Wht2do?
2007-02-21 16:08:08 · 7 answers · asked by myheart2btornapart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
so why do you still want to be with him? Obviously the two of you are not compatable, move on and find someone else
2007-02-21 16:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...unless you want to continue having casual sex with an ex that is pursuing other girls and trying to be a player you should make a decision. Either choose to tolerate the ex or break things off. As to your current boyfriend, you already know that you have to break that off. You can't be serious about making a committment to a new guy and still be interested enough in the ex to want to 'confront him'. I don't see how disclosing your indescretion to your current boyfriend would help anything though. You don't have to tell him anything other than that you're not ready to have another serious relationship and that you're sorry. You will only make things worse when you start explaining why you asked the ex to come over to your house, etc. That's not appropriate behavior for someone in a committed relationship--whether or not you'd made out with him. But you're young and will make mistakes in the future as well. I don't see this as an 'either/or' situation--it's not a matter of choosing boy # 1 or boy # 2. You may need time to figure out what's going on with your own life and what you actually want. You don't trust the ex and he has probably not changed. You'd only be setting yourself up for more hurt if you try to get back together with him. The problem is that you've undermined your new relationship and set it up for failure as well. Aren't ex-boyfriends great for messing up good things that follow the breakup? It was your own poor judgment that brought about this result though and you'll have to take responsibility for that. I just don't think confessing to the new boyfriend about it will bring about any good results either. He'd respect you more if you confided that you just aren't ready to have another relationship than you'd rather be with an ex. Good luck unraveling this mess. Learn from your mistakes and make yourself priority.
2016-03-29 06:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor baby! I feel so sorry for you as I can see you are hurting from all this confusion. Unfortunately your boyfriend has you under his thumb, making you feel it is your "fault" for anything he is getting away with doing. You need to take a deep breath and get some new friends. Tomorrow call around and find out about some clubs you can join, and get super busy - go to the library, go to the mall, buy a little notebook and document your progress. Your boyfriend won't stop hurting you with other girls until he feels he is losing you and until you get really busy doing everything and anything, you will keep allowing him to hurt you. Get busy with other people and he will be back, but then, you may not want him by that point. It is when you get out that other guys begin to phone and you may wonder what you saw in your boyfriend once you start meeting other guys. Good luck, you sound sweet and deserve to be happy! Love, Jen.
2007-02-21 16:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, sorry to say, you don't need him. Try to let go. His self-righteous and hypocritical behaviour: being vexed with you for something that happened early in the relationship, and then going out and doing worse than you, to say nothing of his waffling about his confusion, make him a very bad bet. I would suggest you drop him.
2007-02-21 16:14:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that it a good idea that both of you take a break from this
situation. it not good for any one. as for you just staying around
while he decide what he want, that not good either, if you get
back together then that good but dont just sit around waiting for
anyone to make his'/her mind up.
2007-02-21 16:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the way you write, I can tell your too young, and aren't gonna make it work, walk away, too many problems in this.
2007-02-21 16:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll just repeat wut Loveable said "And why do u still want him?" He's not worth all the trouble that ur going thorugh.
2007-02-21 16:16:37 · answer #7 · answered by Allahu_Akbar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋