Babysitting 2 yr old with bad mad fits?

Question

When i tell her simply to stop doing somthing she isnt suposed to in a split second she will start screaming and crying, she will grab her knees and just pinch and pull a hand full of hair out of her head.... why does she do this????

Answer 1

Temper Tantrums

If the child is throwing a fit and starts screaming, make sure he’s not close to the furniture or stairwell, and let him tire himself out.

Fighting

If the children start to fight, leave them alone, they can work it out themselves, separate them afterwards if it doesn’t end, don’t take sides, and try to interest both kids in a different activitie.

Power Stuggles

IF the child is testing you and won’t do anything you ask he rto do, try to get her on your side, ask her to show you her favorite game and give her as much guidance as you can, and pay attention to her.

Answer 2

Thats a tantrum and you don't cater to it at all.
If she asks for a cookie and you say no, then she does this, do you give her the cookie?
If yes, then you are mearly serving to her whims, giving into her demands. Thats not what you do!
If no, thats good.
I would try this, walk away when she suddenly starts crying and walk into a room where she can't see you.
I have seen children stop their tantrum right there, follow that person, and suddenly drop back into that tantrum as soon as they found them.
You tell her promptly that you will not let her do it or whatever and say that crying will not help.
Try to get her attention somewhere else.
Bring colors and coloring books along, something new that she doesn't have or seen before. Use this as an incentive to good behavior.
Like if she begins crying, get out the object and put it on the table/floor and tell her that you have something fun to play with, don't make her play it. Let her want to play with it.
Distract that crying to somewhere else.
Thats what I do with the 2 yr old that I Babysit whenever she starts crying for her mother every 10 minutes or so. I quickly divert her attention to something else.
I bring along movies that she hasn't seen before and books that she doesn't have.
But don't cut off the affection. Hugs are very welcome to young children and its surprising at how comforting a circular rub on the back can be to them.
THough the pulling hair thing is a little advanced, I haven't known children to actually injure themselves that far.

Answer 3

because of the way you are telling her she is wrong. she is frustrated by your attitude, and doesnt feel understood. a 2 year old should be redirected, not simply told to stop. if she is coloring on the wall, say 'ooops! we only color on paper, not on the walls, heres some paper for you', move her hand with the crayon in it over to the paper. then get the 409 and a paper towel and say 'will you help me clean this up?', and have her help you. there should be no negative tone to this, she is just exploring. you must be really young and inexperienced. theres a reason they call it 'the terrible twos'. ignore bad behavior, they are just testing you. your job is to teach her how to behave in a level manner. fits only get bad when you participate in them.

Answer 4

It's called "the terrible twos". Children this age do NOT understand the concept of "no" or "don't" so "simply telling her" isn't doing you any good. The reason she does what she does is to get your attention and to get you to give in to what she wants to do. The best thing to do is simply ignore the behavior.

Answer 5

Most children do that throw fits like this, know that gets them their way. When she thriws these fits what you need to do (even though you think your being cruel) is ignore it. Don't let her get her way when she is with you. She will learn, that when she's with mom and dad she gets her way by doing this, but when she is with you she won't. My oldest daughter lives with her father and I. She does not throw fits 9 she will beg and ask several times). She knows that when we say 'NO' we mean it. My youngest daughter lives with her Grandmother. When she throws a fit (cries, kicks, screams, tells her she hates her)there she gets her way. She no longer throws her fits at our house to get her way. It took alot of Ignoring and saying 'NO', but we had to(what you will think is cruel) tell her she wasn't going to get a present. We took her to WalMart on her Birthday, so she could pick out what she wanted. Her sister wanted to come in with us. Right in the parking lot she through a fit (screaming, kicking, etc.) I put her back into the car and told her "Happy Birthday, You don't get a present. " She doesn't throw fits like that whenshe is with us any more.

Answer 6

YOU TOO? MY TWO YEAR OLD SISTERS KID ACTS UP. I GIVE IT THREE TIMES WITH THE WORD STOP OR NO, THEN IT'S HANDS ON THE WALL FOR 2-15 MINUTES. HE IS BAD, SOMETIMES, AND IT IS THE TERRIBLE TWOS. THIS MAY BE BEHAVIOUR LEADING TO SOMETHING MORE SERIOUS LIKE A SENSORY PROCESSING DISORDER BECAUSE THE 2 YR OLD JUST DOES NOT LISTEN. TALK TO THE PARENTS GENTLY AND SEE WHAT THEY DO. THIS SEEMS LIKE SELF ABUSING BEHAVIOR AND DEFINITELY NEEDS ADDRESSING.

Answer 7

Since its night I wouldnt recommend going outside but if its a nice area/weather you should take them out for a little evening stroll. Maybe you guys can watch a movie like Wall-e or Nemo. Or if you wanna do something fun try baking cookies (those Pilsbury ones!)

Answer 8

She wants you to give in and let her have her way. Somewhere down the road it worked with someone. I find that if you just ignore it, most children stop. Whatever you do, don't show her attention for it and don't let her have what she wants.

Answer 9

i think you should tell the parents ASAP cause she might be dealing with some sort of disease

yeahh but you should tell the parents and dont be afraid cause its for the girls best interst

Answer 10

It is not called the terrible two's for nothing.....

when she has these tantrums just ignore her......when she see these tantrums will not get her ..her way..she will quit....