I notice I raise my voice at my daughter in a mean way so that she can listen is that bad?

Question

My 5-year old daughter won't listen at times and I have to raise my voice at her loudly to get her to listen she does a little but thats it, is there a better way that I can approach her more properly?

Answer 1

Part of being a mom is having to be unpolite at times. :((

I know, it completely sucks. But, it's necessary in order to let them know what is acceptable and what's not. Otherwise, you become a friend and your authority goes out the window.

Answer 2

I don't think so. I have a 20 month old and she ignores me all of the time. The only way to get them to listen sometimes is to raise your voice. As long as you are not screaming in her face it should be fine.

Answer 3

Have you ever watched the SuperNanny or Nanny911 shows? You need to get down on her level and look her in the eyes. Most kids aren't listening and will ignore you til they hear the tone of your voice change and get louder. That is very normal. If sounds aren't getting her attention you have to try something else. Tapping her on the shoulder or waving a hand in front of her face.

Answer 4

Me being a mother myself, I would say to sit her down and tell her that listening to you is very important. The reason for that is to understand you. In return, you will understand her. raising your voice will not get you anything but a headache! When you talk calmly to a child, they will start to listen and follow directions. Also, try smiling when you approach he/she. This helps to ease the tension that you have.

Answer 5

when you know a problem you can fix it easy..... your child 5 years old won't listen to you! you must ask yourself why? if you know the answer you will find a solution but if you don't know there is the solution ..... raise your voice or not doesn't lead to a solution...... you must be firm and very serious when you are asking her to do things but with a low voice and firm one ... if you don't listen or do this you will be punished for ex to something that she loves . so by this way she will understand and listen to you.....

Answer 6

Dont feel bad. Everyone who is a mom started with one child at some point in time. There is no right or wrong way. Nature usually takes over sometimes and it happens to the best of moms. Just if you find yourself doing it constantly then maybe make it a point to calm down a bit... Parenting can be very stressful, dont beat yourself up!

Answer 7

Um well when I was a little girl my mom always yelled at me. Well when I was about your daughters age and My Grandma told my mom, and always said this to her don't yell at her all the time because it will make her more mad and she will keep on doing what she is doing so my Grandma said taking her things away from her and so of course my mom did it and...... I got some of my favorite, my most special things I played with taken away and other things put in the trash but I learned to listen to my mom and know with my kids well it works with them they know if they don't do what they are told to do they will get their privileges taken away from them so I hope I could help...........

Answer 8

i hated it when adults used to do that when i was a kid (well i still am, but when i was much younger).
i always thought that made adults much superior or something, so i always preferred it when they bent down to my level and talk in a calm, polite, civil way instead of treating me like some deaf kid

Answer 9

I used to do just the opposite. I'd put my face right up to theirs and whisper! it worked.

Answer 10

Its call discipline...