I really do love her but am not sure she feels the same way. We have been going out for four years now. Recently she has gotten where she won't kiss me; she always makes a reason like she just ate, cold sore, etc. She will not say she loves me, but when I ask her she says yes. When we are intimate, it is always about her. It is never about what I want. As long as she gets hers she could care less about me. I also have a 9 year old son and she will never come around when I have him. When we are together it's more like I'm with a friend than a lover. I had her favorite flowers delivered to her and all I got from her was a text saying thank you. Nothing more. Should I cut my losses and move on?
2007-02-21 15:57:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know the answer - yes you should. You know what they say... "Advice is what you ask for when you know what you need to do but are afraid to do it by yourself". Your instinct tells you that you have to move on, but you just dont feel like it because of the strong attraction you have for her.
I say take some time off to sit back (a couple of hours MAXIMUM) and try to balance what you want to do - whether you want to talk to her about this, or you want to move on. Clearly, a Status Quo isnt what you want. And when if you decide to move on -- be strong and move on. If you decide to talk to her, set a mental deadline after which you will move on anyway. Its about being strong -- i know its easier said than done, but it can be done.
PS -- and I dont necessarily think that you should count this as a "loss" at all.
2007-02-21 16:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dipsite_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if she doesn't want to come around when you have your son then I wouldn't be with her. If you truly love the person you would love the child also or at least make an effort. Sounds like you are a great person and deserve much better than what you are getting. I personally would break up with her, but since you said that you really love her you should try talking to her about the situation and see if that changes anything. If she doesn't cut your losses and find someone that will appreciate you. From what you said she is all about herself. There are lots of girls out there that would love someone that is as thoughtful as you are and would enjoy spending time with your son.
2007-02-23 04:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by gasnshngrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did u talk 2 her bout this, telling her What u feel, if she really luv u, she will change..... if she did't change, n just ignore what u tell her, then u should break up with her
2007-02-21 16:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... you deserve much better than that
2007-02-21 16:04:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesnt appreciate you
Leave her and find someone who does
2007-02-21 16:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by SAgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋