Why?
2007-02-21 15:54:40 · 26 answers · asked by MrsOcultyThomas 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I had to let them all go.
2007-02-22 03:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I try not to hold a grudge against anyone cause it dose no good. So what if some one did something or said something about me. I know what comes around goes around and its called Carma. I sit back and laugh. Now back in the day when I was younger i held a grudge against the world for everything that happened to me but i grew up. To this day my sister-in-law owes me $1500 dollars but i let go cause she will learn. My brother-in-Law owes me$1000 but still i know it will be o.k. I'm better then that and i know they know that. that's why they cant even look at me in my face.
2007-02-21 16:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by brenda72804@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. What good does it do me or the other person? If I walk around angry at someone, I am only hurting myself. My anger or my grudge doesn't affect the other person in any way. I am only doing damage to my own spirit by holding onto something in the past so tightly that I am in a constant state of anger. People have done things to me that hurt me greatly. But, to hold a grudge against them would only hurt me more. I choose not to do that. I choose to be at peace.
Amanda
2007-02-21 15:57:28 · answer #3 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nopes. Even if I hold a grudge against anyone it won't last for more than 2 days.
2007-02-21 15:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by Atheist Eye Candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do. This person tried to hurt the person I love most in the world simply to upset me at my core. Why? All her life, she has blamed everyone else for whatever was didn't bring her pleasure simply because she could and the most important people bought into it - her mother and father. I always felt compassionate toward her and, as her roommate for three years, tried to find ways to cheer her and didn't listen to professionals who had long ago diagnosed her with a borderline personality disorder. Her manipulation took me by surprise because of a misconceived notion that she was too 'limited' to do anything really harmful. This, mind you, is a 49 year-old woman who lives with her mother (now). I try not to hold onto it, but screw with the person I love most in the world and my wrath is not easily contained. I don't act upon it, however, not in the ways I'd sometimes like to.
Other than peace, the reason I need to let go of the grudge is that I've been in this situation many times before, and I am angry with myself still for letting it happen again. As someone accustomed to verbal and emotional abuse growing up, I flocked toward those who gave me the same. It was familiar. I have learned and I have found the most wonderful people to call my friends and lover, and I am beyond grateful. I try not to beat myself up about it but I am mad that I was unable to protect someone I adore from getting hurt by her. It is obviously difficult to go into it completely, but suffice it to say that my ex-roommate very recently made a call to the boss of my mate (she is a licensed therapist) and lied about her giving me prescription medication. I can't tell you how sick this made me - perhaps the absolute lack of truth sent me over the edge; perhaps it was because I was absolutely devastated having to see the love of my life actually going in front of a board on this matter. That it was completely untrue and the surreality of knowing someone outright lied in such a completely manipulative way for the sole purpose of wreaking havoc on the lives of myself and my partner gets me going to this day.
While I believe forgiveness is incredibly important I am not ready to be at that stage yet. I don't know that I ever will. What I do know is that I won't let it eat at me any more than it has already and I'll keep trudging along the path to acceptance, at most:)
Wow, that was refreshing to admit. Thanks, Wayne.
2007-02-21 17:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by Me, Thrice-Baked 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was very hurt by someone who was supposed to be my high priestess...I was resentful towards her, but I have accepted that all happens for a reason and broken ties with her. So no..I dont hold a grudge against her anymore.
I generally dont hold grudges, Virgo that I am.
2007-02-21 16:02:48 · answer #6 · answered by TiGeR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have difficulty grasping the purpose of self-indulgent people who get what they want at the risk of others~
the young mother with many boyfriends who do not provide basic needs for her child/ren
the serial murderer, repeat offender...
the wealthy who are unable to part with their blessings while people suffer all around them...
"Grudge" might not be the right word but definitely, consternation.
2007-02-21 16:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by jombojolly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Part of my ideal to live guilt free, and shame free has been to live grudge free. However, I remain grudge free by acting on my anger immediately.
2007-02-21 16:05:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. Because someone finally crossed a line that they can't cross back from. After years of treating me and my loved ones badly, someone threatened my baby. And promptly got their head handed to them by me, on a platter. I will never let that person near my children ever. It may be many years before I can think about this without MamaBear rage boiling up.
But I think this is appropriate since it's a protective instinct.
2007-02-21 16:03:08 · answer #9 · answered by KC 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Not a grudge but I am very upset with the clones of "The Original Muslimah Rocks " as one of them sent me a hate and nasty email and reported 3 of my answers and her questions are still here and she was reported for cloning constantly
God Bless You
2007-02-21 16:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I bear a grudge to a society that lets pedophilia and rape be o.k.
2007-02-21 16:09:20 · answer #11 · answered by dorkmobile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋