We were in church today and she just kept acting like she was in a play area.
2007-02-21 15:53:13 · 12 answers · asked by Pretty me :) 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Be strong in your words. Use a tone in your voice that is authoritive and use that for only when you want her to listen to you. Don't use a tone that you have for when playing with her or the like.
If she was playing in church and not listening, you take her right out of there, just like you would with a crying child, and tell her promptly the reason why.
You don't reward her playing by giving her toys or food in church.
If anything, interact with her about church before you go.
Have an incentive for behaving. Nothing big, but maybe her favorite food for dinner after, or maybe a special breakfast before. Whatever that catches her fancy.
If nothing else helps, I would advise looking at Dr. Phils website. He is a wonder with kids and people.
2007-02-21 16:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by cyancat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try bringing some crayons and coloring books with you it always helps with little kids. I have been using a chart that I make with a small list on in for my 4 year old grandson and it has made my life much easier. On it I put what I expect him to do such as pick up toys, follow directions etc. I allow him to place the stickers on the chart at the end of the day. I made each one count 2 points and made little awards for so many points. He can earn points to go the library, the park , the video store and going out to eat. So what I do at the sign of trouble is I remind him that he will lose points if he continues not to listen to me. When you do have to remove a sticker the child just cries and cries be prepared, however they learn without spanking, yelling and all the rest. I wish you the best.
2007-02-21 16:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by phylobri 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm right there with you- my daughter is 4 and listening is a huge battle. Keep in mind it won't be an over night fix- be consistent in your requests and in following through with any consequences.
Look for the book and video "1,2,3 Magic" at your local library...I started using it a year ago, but then got lazy and haven't kept up with the principles...when i did follow through however, it was wonderful! Basically the premise is that you count to 3...1 and 2 are the warnings and 3 gets the child a timeout. Don't try to talk and reason...kids tune all that out....etc It comes recommended from the schools in my area....
good luck!
2007-02-21 16:13:06 · answer #3 · answered by celebcynic 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Say something she wants to hear. On the surface this may sound like a flippant answer, but to get your child to listen you must gain their interest. Always speak at their level and ENGAGE them in conversation. If they feel they have the ability to respond and communicate they will be more apt to listen. That doesn't mean that they should get their way. You are an adult, you can steer them in ways in which they are unaware they are giving up control.
2007-02-21 19:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by Randall A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step is to truly know that you are in charge. Then, get down on her level, eye to eye, put your hand firmly but gently on her shoulder, and speak in a low, calm, but firm and confident voice making eye contact with her, and tell her exactly what she needs to do.
don't yell. Especially if you do this all the time. Speaking low will catch her off guard.
2007-02-21 17:17:02 · answer #5 · answered by Who Knew! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you get her home (church is the wrong place) sit her little butt down and ACT like you are older than her. You can take if from there.
2007-02-21 16:00:04 · answer #6 · answered by Debi in LA 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have my two yr old sister son, i say it three times and then it's a 2-5 minute time out. you need to say" when i say stop, or no it means stop and no". smack her hand gently and put her in time out. take away her priveleges and say" when you learn to listen, then you will get your way." for me, it helps but others may help more.
2007-02-21 15:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mega-phone.
2007-02-21 15:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by McWalmart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make sure she knows it's not ok to act that way. When she's good reward her when she's bad, make sure she knows your not happy! maybe if she has to sit for a long period of time you should bring something to keep her occupied, maybe a notebook she can draw in..
2007-02-21 15:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by Random one 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IF YOU TELL HIM IT MIGHT WORK IF IT DOES NOT WORK THEN WHIP HIM OR GO TO THIS WEB SITE http://newmercy.tv
and go to the children section or something like that
2007-02-22 05:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋