How do you not like a guy....... ya i like this guy but i have no idea how to stop i dont want too!!!!!! (no im not shallow ) Please help me!!! and its gotten out of hand i cant even stop thinking about him, i really really really need help
2007-02-21 15:41:27 · 21 answers · asked by yawn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
(i do have a life!!!! this is specifically adressed to that one question, and i have tried imagining him even doing drugs none of that works pls someone come up with something!!)!)
2007-02-21 15:46:19 · update #1
ahhh preoccupation it has happend to us all and not all will admit the best way to get over any any kind of preoccupation is not by repression lets treat this the way a psychologist might treat something more severe like obsessive compolsiove disorder never repress thought or behavior first acknowledge the thought you have to take this first step - i find my self thinking of (name of so and so you do not feel is healthy for you )- then gently redirect your thinking to a task you wish to finish or the thing you are supposed to be activly thinking of at the time .carefully as to not just day dream of something else plealsant as not to pair another fantasy thought with this man .which i gather you might be doing this is why you have build up a fantasy which is interfering with the quility of your time and life. when ever you have successfully gotten back to your task or function focus back you can reward your self later focus redirect finish task ,even if it is paying attention to a TV show you are watchintg ..
i recommend staying away from the romance novels and movies just for a while and engaging in healthy activities with friends athletics. later when you have kicked this .... a date with some one who does not remind you of this person . please feel free to click on my avatar and email me if you need more help good wishes God bless u
2007-02-21 16:00:27 · answer #1 · answered by dancfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell u is that wenever u think about this guy, change the subject in ur head. And wenever u seem to start staring at him or just thinking about him, distract urself by doing sumthin or just think of sumthin else, like school, friends, future plans, u know, those kinds of stuff. Hope this helps. Good Luck.
2007-02-21 15:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by Allahu_Akbar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to like someone because they are bad for you (or for another reason), just take things one day at a time. Be patient with yourself.
You have to really focus and try not to think about him (which can be very difficult). Try different things to distract yourself - life, work, friends. Try to get away from the places where you see him (and talk to him). Try not to talk to him.
If all else fails, have your best girlfriends do an intervention. ;-)
Best wishes to you and take care,
debm
2007-02-21 15:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by dam_9191 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut off contact with them and start looking somewhere else. There is a reason that you two broke it off so there is always going to be a reason that the two of you are not going to work as a relationship. You can't change for someone and you can't expect them to change for you so accept it and move on. (even if one or the other does change its going to be short lived because its their character and habit they will go back to the old ways eventually anyway)
2007-02-21 15:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by massure4hire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The image of a guy is in your mind does not match to a guy so the like and unlike question arise. Do not match him with your dreamed imaginate guy and find out qualities you need.
This will help you to make a decision.
2007-02-21 15:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by shahida69pk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to ask yourself, what do you want for yourself in a relationship right now. Whether you're looking for a serious relationship or just a casual one, you have to be honest with that person right off. But why is it that you don't want to like about him? It's obvious the attraction is there. Maybe your putting up a shield, because you got hurt in the past. I'd like to know more details please.
2007-02-21 15:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by hawaiian.leilei 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To not like a man agian you have to stay away until you are able to say no.. If you really like him the first time then you will have to stay away until you are about to start seeing someone else and then it want hurt you so much to see him with someone else. You need to take about a month.
2007-02-21 15:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by kool aid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop and breath and then think of all the things you hate about him instead of what you like about him. He seems to have you under his spell the only way to break it is to **** him. You will hat ehim after that unless the spells backfires. Call me to tell me what happened girl. Tommorow.
2007-02-21 15:47:30 · answer #8 · answered by Angel M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think of horrible things bout this guy. don't entertain any positive traits he has. dont come near him. dont be on the same vicinity with him. bring him to limbo and leave him there. with that, he will never ever cross ur path ;)
2007-02-21 15:48:21 · answer #9 · answered by aria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is probably the best question in the world. I'm just going to sit back and watch the answers.
2007-02-21 15:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by Debi in LA 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋