Questions on a second pregnancy..... Second time mothers answer please.?

Question

im in my second pregnancy at 37 weeks, i had my first exam to see if the baby was head downa dn so on and I was 3 centimeters dilated, i was only 1 centimeter dilated with my first child at this time..... is teh second pregnancy faster than the first.... will i be having my baby anytime soon?...... Im also worried about the transition my son will face hes only 11 months old adn hes a big mommys boy doesnt spend a second wiht out me im so scared i wont have enough time for him any advice?

thanks to everyone who has gave me words of encouragement.... Im very young and i worry so much my son is the center of my universe.... everything every one has said hsa been so helpful.. thank you all.

Answer 1

First off congrates on the second baby.
For me my secong pregnancy I was late a week late having my daughter but the labor only took five hours and twenty three minutes. With my first it took fifteen hours and twenty three minutes. My sister labor for both there second kids took a lot less time then the first one. My son was about 14 months when I had our daughter and he loved her, he would tell everyone that was his baby. I would just encourage him to help some times with the new one. Good luck

Answer 2

The second ones are usually faster and I wouldn't worry too much right now about your little boy. He's still very young and won't understand what's happening. You might want to start telling him right now that he's getting a little brother or sister and after the baby is there, you need to divide your time pretty much equally which won't be easy. Make sure you let him help you with the baby, however do not ever leave him alone with it. Unless its in the crib. Do not lay the baby on the floor and walk away, little brothers have been known to sit on the baby or put things in its mouth. That's not because they're bad, they just don't think anything off it, they're playing. Hug him a lot and carry on the way you have, just tell him there will be his time and then there is baby's time.
Good Luck! You can do it!!!!

Answer 3

Usually your second pregnancy does go faster when it comes to dilating and labor. Your body has been through this before and it knows what it's doing and your body can do it faster. Most women, including myself, have had a lot easier second birth. If you're 3 cm at 37 weeks, you probably won't go to 40 weeks. I would guess you would go to about 39 weeks. As for your son, it's so hard. When my son was born, I felt so bad for my daughter. I cried at night and apologized to her for not giving her the attention she was used to. She had my 100% attention and now she had to share it. I felt so bad. It took me about a week and then I felt a lot better. The best thing you can do for your 11 month old son is to involve him in EVERYTHING. If you are feeding the baby, let him sit next to you. If you are changing the baby's diaper, let him watch. Tell him you love him all the time. When the baby is sleeping, give your son tons of attention. Try to involve him as much as possible and let him know you haven't forgotten about him.

Answer 4

My children are 7 years apart and both boys. I did not get that big with baby #1, but I gained 100 pounds with #2. My 1st labor was 29 hours, but only 6 for the second. Both births were about the same. The second baby was easier for me because I knew what to expect and I was not as afraid. After being a mother for 7 years already, I was ready for whatever came with the new child but they are absolutely nothing alike, so I had to learn how to parent the other baby differently.My oldest son was very BOY and the youngest was very sensitive and sweet.What I can tell you honestly is that you love them all completely and motherhood is such a true blessing. Please don't worry, it will work out beautifully

Answer 5

each pregnancy is different... they say the second and subsequent ones are faster but I have heard lots of stories saying women had longer labor with second etc. mine were faster but again, it's hard to say...
i understand your concern about your 11 month old but try not to get too uptight. I hope you have a good husband and family to help you.
I suggest you do lots of time planning now before the baby is here and try to set up schedules so that you can do what you need to do with the baby when it's awake and spend time with the other child when baby is asleep... no sleep for you unfortunately for a while - hope you are up for it.
I had mine close together too but I was young and energetic -wow! I couldn't do it now!
the best of luck to you!

Answer 6

I think all of us 2nd time mothers have the worry of not being able to spend enough time or paying attention to the first born,( I did) and all you have to do is include your son in everything you do with the new baby (like ask him to help you hold the bottle or get a diaper) With me my second did come faster, but all women are different.

Answer 7

I've heard that the second is faster, but mine wasn't. I was in labor 12 hrs just like with the first. I wouldn't worry too much about your son, he'll adjust, all siblings do. God bless you though, I don't know if I could handle kids that close in age! mine are 8 yrs apart, and it's been a blessing. My oldest does get jealous but she's a big help. Good luck though and congratulations- hope this one is faster and easier for you.

Answer 8

My second pregnancy was a C-section. But I have been told the second time around gos much faster. For the advice with your son. Make sure you include him in helping you with the baby. If he understands have him get the diaper, wipes, powder, Etc.... I know its hard to spend time with him when you have another baby in the house. But you need to set aside time for you and him. Read him a book, play a game, watch a movie together snuggled on the couch. As they get older it gets better. I have three kids and two are twins. Every time I go to the store. I make them take turns going with me. That helps with the alone time. I sit in their room and play the V-Teck games with them. Or sometimes one will get in my lap and we watch TV together. Just hang in there and enjoy them while you can. Its going to be real hard at first. But your mommy instincts will kick in. If that doesn't help. Do some background work on your computer. I like to go to ask.com.

Answer 9

you dilate a lot earlier with the second child, I was 3 centimetres for about two weeks. But 37 weeks implies soon anyway...
As for your firstborn, they will still demand the attention, and unfortunately, I've found myself putting the baby down more than I ever would have with my first - he spends a lot of time in his swing while I entertain my daughter. No matter what, it won't be easy, it's an impossible balancing act, as (let's face it) there isn't enough of us for one child already, from their perspective...
Good luck!