What is a love relationship like?

Question

Tell me all of your experiences and the advantages and disadvantages of being in a relationship.

Answer 1

well these days it feels like i guess being in hell. no one is really loving anyone anymore.

Answer 2

If you truly love someone, then it is like finding the other half that makes you a whole person. Yes, that is really cliche, but it is really true.

If you are both serious about your love and the relationship, the advantages are too many to count.

THe disadvantages are that you have to work at it to make the relationship last - if you wait passively to fall in love, you will aslo fall out of it. You have to put the other person first at all times. If they put you first too, then it will work. Your world-focus has to change from being all about you to being all about them.

Answer 3

Now days its real hard to find that special someone. Lucky for me I have but it hasn't always been easy we went through a lot to get where we are now and I love him to death. We went through so much with people getting all in our business, ex' girl friends and things but it all worked out in the end. I won't take nothing back because it only made our relationship stronger and we know eachother just like a book. He's my everything my other half my love and soon to be husband....So when you do find that special someone don't let them slip away because trust me its hard....GOOD LUCK

Answer 4

I couldn't begin to tell you all of my experiences, but I can give you a general picture.

Last year, my junior year in high school, I met a girl that I was instantly attracted to. She was a freshman, she played the French horn (as I do), and she quickly became freshman class president. I liked her right away, but for reasons too complicated to delve into right now, I was unable to act upon my feelings.

It was a rough year for both of us. We both liked each other, and we were both in denial. She was going through a rough time in her life, and I pushed her to her limit. I went out of my way to be nice to her, even when there were a lot of people that gave her a hard time for being very outspoken and opinionated. She tells me now that she used to go home and scream "Oh, that boy!" after I did something like hold a door open for her or offer her my coat when she was cold.

Once, on a trip for the music department, something unexpected happened. She had formed a "family" if you will. She had her three "children," a sophomore, junior, and senior, and a few "adopted children." On the trip, one of her children approached me and asked me if I would please propose to his "mother" because they needed a "father" figure. I was put on the spot, but I dropped on one knee and proposed to the girl.

We sat together on the bus ride home, and with much persuasion, I convinced her to use my shoulder as a pillow instead of leaning her neck back. I sang her to sleep, and the song I sang is now very special to us.

I found myself dying to ask this girl to Prom, since it was my junior year, but as I knew that I could not date her, I thought that asking her to Prom would be far too forward, far too obvious in showing that I liked her (as if she didn't all ready know). I made a last minute arrangement to go with another girl, a close friend of mine, who I knew I would never date and therefore didn't feel so guilty... although I still wanted desperately to go with my freshman crush.

Time progressed, and I still found myself unable to date this girl. Summer was approaching, and I made sure to leave her my e-mail address and phone number in her yearbook. She waited to give me hers until the last day of school, where she said, "This summer is going to feel like divorce."

I tried to e-mail her, but something was wrong with the e-mail she had given me, and I couldn't get through to her. I felt terrible, sure that she would think I was just blowing her off. Toward the end of the summer, she sent me an e-mail. (She later admitted that she had been afraid to at first, but finally figured she had nothing to lose.) I was able to hit the reply button and send her an e-mail containing all of the e-mails I had tried to send her before.

Toward the beginning of this year, mysenior and her sophomore, I knew that I had to say something. I couldn't just graduate and leave her wondering. So, because I simply didn't have enough time in school to have the kind of conversation that I needed, I ended up writing her a five page letter. It took me two days to write, and I wasn't sure at the time if I would ever even work up the courage to give it to her.

But, on September 13, 2006, I handed her the letter at lunch. She ended up reading it during Latin and, as she told me later, crying in class. The next day, September 14, she met me before school outside my homeroom and we talked about...us. We managed to make clear several things, including a giant misunderstanding that had prevented me from dating her earlier, as well as my intentions for any possible relationship we might have.

And things turned out fantastically. We were on the same page about relationships. I do not date for the sake of dating. I date with the knowledge that, if all works out for the best, I may end up marrying the woman I am dating. Courting might be a more appropriate term. I have been very selective in the girls I date, because I would not date a girl I could never see myself married to, and except for a few major conditions, I would not break up with a girl I was dating. Certainly never for another girl, or because I "just didn't feel the same anymore," or anything like that. And so, on the fourteenth of September, we began dating.

Since then, we have been extraordinarily happy. We spent hours after school, before pep band, talking and making hilarious memories. I took her to Homecoming and to Sadie's, and I fully intend to take her to Prom this year. I bought her a silver necklace for Christmas, and I got to put it around her neck. I bought her a dozen carnations on Valentine's Day, and as I had intended, she received more than any girl in her homeroom.

Actually, I just had her over today. We saw a movie, and she had dinner at my house. My mother and stepfather adore her, and her parents seem to like and trust me. This girl means more to me than my own life, and I have never been this happy.

As far as advantages and disadvantages go... The greatest advantage is how our relationship changed my outlook on life. Last year was difficult for me, and for her. We were both going through somewhat darker periods in our lives. When I sent her that letter, though, in addition to the way that I treated her every day, I sparked a change in her life. I never knew that I could be so influential in a young woman's life, but I helped lead her out of a difficult time of depression and a dour outlook on life. And, in the process, she helped me. We had both nearly given up hope, but we bring out the best in each other.

The only real disadvantage I can see is the future. I am leaving for college next fall, and I will no longer be able to see her every day. I know that no distance, no person I may meet at college, could ever change how I feel about this girl. I pray that she feels the same, and that our relationship can stay strong, even at a distance. As of now, we have been together for a little over five months, although we have been "married" for over a year. And despite its ups and downs, this has been one of the best years of my life.