My son is already concerned about his penis size. Will this cause problems in the future for him?

Question

I'm worried that my son is feeling insecure, self-concious and depressed because he is not well endowed. My son is 9 and he has repeatedly brought up issues concerning his penis. Maybe because other boys have teased him. But at his age I feel it should be of no concern, but if he's already having issues with it now I'm worried he will have deep psychological issues when he gets older. I'm worried he will have trouble talking to women, etc. I have not seen his penis since he was a toddler so I don't know what the situation with it is now, but the last time I saw it it was quite small. I never thought anything of it because I'm his mom and not his girlfriend, but him bringing the issue up recently made me start to think. I am a single mother so I can't ask his father to talk to him about this. What should I do? Should I just ignore him and tell him he's fine? Should I consult a therapist? Should I take him to a pediatrician to have it checked? I can't imagine asking him to show it to me.

Answer 1

Hello there-.
About your Q...I am single mom myself, and my son just turned 8..to tell you the truth....I cannot imagine a boy feeling out of place at this age because of his penis size, ...there has probably been some comment from somebody else somewhere else...in this matter you should be careful and raise some flags here..since u state yourself u have not seen your boy's privates since he was a toddler...then in which place do u suppose someone else has..?...I talk very much to my son..and advice and warn him about all dangers he can come across in today's world...and given he does not have a father figure himself...I advice you to read ALOT .....and to take advice from proffesionals...and people NEAR you...and KNOWN to you, we can only give u a small amount of advice here , but we do not know u or your son, and you should be protective of that..I would ask his pediatrician....to have a talk with him about diverse penis sizes...and body changes...etc...from a med point of view....the kid is too young to be getting all worked up because of this....
Hope I helped somehow.!

Answer 2

I can reassure you that it will grow,if he is indeed a touch smaller than the rest of his friends. I have a seven year old that was feeling a little insecure about his penis and my husband reassured him that he had the same" penis size " when he was young, his is actually a little larger than the average male now. They grow!! If you feed your child food and water their whole body grows!! My son laughed and shrugged it off. It also helps when your husband is not insecure or another male role model isn`t insecure about their sexuality.

Answer 3

ask you son if he would like to talk to the doctor or other professional. or maybe he has an uncle or other male family friend he could talk to. but my guess would be that he would not want to talk to any one, you may have to encourage him to..you might try explaining to him that size is not that important, and tell him what a wonderful person he is etc.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

your son is just normal. penis size is a big deal. my son is 6 and he already knows these things. i think it is time you should tell him the facts of life. get him a pill or a penis stretcher or something.