what are the pros and cons into having kids?

Answer 1

cons- they cost a lot, your life is not your own anymore, everything changes

pros-i have never loved anything more in my life. i didn't even know i was capable of loving something this much

Answer 2

Take whatever you've done in your life so far that has been the most difficult and challenging and multiply it times 100. That's how difficult taking care of and raising a child is. You really have to put your heart and soul into it 100%.... especially the mother. Be ready to give up sleep, going out, buying special things for yourself, and much (if not most) of your "you" time. It's a real sacrifice and it is very, very stressful and difficult.

The plus side is that you have this beautiful, amazing child that absolutely steals your heart and you experience love like you never have before.

I waited until I was 38 to have my first child so I'd have a chance to have a career and a life beforehand. I'm pregnant with my second at 41. In retrospect, I wish I had made the decision to have children just a bit younger -- when I had more energy (because they take tons of your energy!!). And, I will be 80-ish when my children are my age! I think early the 30s is the perfect time to have your first - provided you are mature enough emotionally at that time (and I wasn't).

When you make the decision to move forward, have a committed mate and a strong support system of friends and family in place. You will need them.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 3

I had the experience of raising my baby niece (15 mths at the time) for one year on my own. So, in essence I was a single parent. She has since gone home, but that experience taught me A LOT about kids and I will DEFINITELY think twice before I become a parent. It is an experience that many people don't understand until it is too late. Once the baby is here, there is no turning back.....Here is my list based upon my year experience:

Pros
-It is rewarding to see a child develop
-You learn unconditional love
-You learn responsibility for another human being
-You are exposed to a whole world of cartoons and toys - it brings you back to your childhood
-You don't have a chance to be lazy
-It is an awesome learning experience - I never knew I would become an expert on sick kids and potty training
-It feels good to be needed by someone else

Cons
- It is emotionally draining - a child takes away your since of identity. It is no longer about you.
- It is very expensive
- You are always tired - kids never rest and they ALWAYS get up early
- You constantly worry about their safety
- You can't come and go as you please
- Everything that once was easy becomes a HUGE chore (running a quick errand, getting dressed in the morning, going on vacation)
- You are responsible for the outcome of another human being, which can be daunting

Answer 4

pros- a love you have never ever experience or want to give up.
teaching and being able to change the world one kid at a time *if you are an awesome parent*
simple things, kids make you slow down and enjoy the wonders and let you remember your own childhood.

Cons- do not have a kid if you cant function without morning coffee or/and sleep.
if you love to just take off without any worries.
dont have a job or a home to keep the child.
dont like kids.

Answer 5

Con: Exspensive. Sometimes annoying. A 24 hour job. Lack of sleep. Arranging your day around an infant/child.

Pro: They are so much fun! A big tax return at the end of the year. A little person that looks up to you and can't wait to see you in the morning.

I have a 7 month old daughter that was a surprise. I didn't know I was pregnant until I was 6 months along. I wouldn't trade her for anything in the world. She is my world and I love her so very much. I didn't know I could ever love anything or anyone so much...

Answer 6

There are no cons. My children were tremendously fun at every age. Of course, by the time they were about 5 years old, they were much more mature than I would ever be. Additionally, my son became a master chemist and I once watched him give an incredible talk to a group of other scientists at a conference and my daughter became a track star. I lived so much more life because of my children than would ever have been possible without them.

Answer 7

Pros=They are a wonderful part of you. Just watching them do anything can make you smile. They fill your life. YOur life will NEVER be boring. THey are the most difficult, and most wonderful thing you have in life. ANd they are worth it. COns= THey are expensive, they are just like you when you were young, (which means they'll do to you what you did to your parents), YOu no longer have your own life, they are your life. ANd it's all worth it. Even the Cons to me are the pros. They can make you happy, sad, and angry all at once.

Answer 8

pros: they start out as babies
cons: they become teenagers

pros: they do what you tell them
cons: they don't listen, cuz they know it all

pros: when they are babies they smell soooooo good
cons: teenagers just plain stink!!

I have a 22 yr old..married a man with 4 kids and we have custody of them, we have one together...we have a house full, lots of chaos, and a tremendous amount of love

Answer 9

If you strive to be a GOOD parent, there are VERY few pros. There are TONS of cons.

Children change EVERY THING THAT YOU KNOW AS LIFE. They change ALL OF IT. They take ALL your money, they take ALL your time. You are terrified to leave them with anyone (the people you trust most in life, suddendly seem like clods), they require constant attention, they are ridiculously unreasonable - I could go on, and on, and on.

But the are SO DARN CUTE!!... that's how they getcha! Their cuteness. They look JUST like you. And we love that.

Those are the pros. And why we keep having mor babies.

Answer 10

Cons...
you will become a servant
you will become severely frustrated
you will become financially distitute
you will be hated and ridiculed
you will spend many many sleepless nights
you will become a chauffer
you will long for the days when you had a life of your own

Pros...
you will cherish every second of every day of the all above


Kids are a blessing and the most wonderful part of life, but you wont realize it till they are grown up and gone.