After breaking up with a girlfriend 4 months ago, I found out a month ago that she is pregnant. (we broke up because she moved away) My question is regarding our current situation, and I just want opinions.
Is it responsible to think that another family wanting a child could raise your kid better than you can
than
trying to raise your child between your ex that lives farther away, trying to go to school, work a job, etc.
and do you think adoption is the easy way out?
I want to raise my own child, i'm just afraid that my ex's and my conflicting schedules, financial situation, etc affect my child's life (always traveling back and forth between parents, changing schools - homes - friends, the fact mom and dad arn't together)
2007-02-21 15:07:04 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Adoption is a wonderful option for people not ready to parent. There are plenty of barren couples who want children but cannot have them on their own. Adoption is not the easy way out it is the caring way out, one day your child will know that you gave them up to give them a better life then what you could provide. Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-02-21 15:11:48 · answer #1 · answered by tylw85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. I would talk to your ex, see if there is anyway that you two could live closer together. It may be a little difficult later on in life when the child realises that mommy and daddy aren't together like other parents. But you're his/her parents. It's not an easy out to choose adoption, infact it's more responsible than those who choose abortion. At least you're giving the child the chance to live. You have a few more months until the baby's born. Plenty of time to figure things out. If you think that you're ready to be a parent and you can provide for your child, then hell...be a parent and do just that. In the end it's all up to you. Whether you choose to put the baby up for adoption or raise it yourself it's all your choice in the end.
And..The child doesn't HAVE to change schools, homes and friends. A child can live perfectly fine with having two homes and friends at each. And spend the majority of it's time with the parent that has primary custody, thus making school easier. But school and friends is even further away than birth...So talk to your ex.
2007-02-21 16:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by Dani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adoption is not the easy way out. adoption is a very emotional decision that effects everyone involved for life. it takes a very strong person to give their child up for adoption. keeping them is easier. do what you think is best for the child.
2007-02-21 15:16:34 · answer #3 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you will make a great dad, as you are concerned about her well being. keep it up.
2007-02-21 15:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by angie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋