Well I did what everyone said I should do, I told my g/f that I'm leaving sooner than We thought.
I talked to my sergeant today again and I asked him if I will be coming back to where I live for 2 weeks after basic training.he said no. After I get done with basic training I go to my Tech School for traning and it wouldn't be til like xmas before i see my g/f.
I talked to him some more and basically I thought that she could leave with me and go to Washington were I will be stationed. I want her to marry me, I really do. She my first thought every morning, my heart, my soul, my every breathe I take.
She doesn't want to move because her school of her choice is here. I want her to achieve her dreams, I don't want to stand in her path.
However, where I live people with master degrees aren't even getting jobs in her career choice. The town is dieing. I would like to bring her with me so she actually does have a chance at achieving her dreams.
Plz helo! IDK what 2 do!
2007-02-21 15:02:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you think we didn't think about it earlier we did. Now that its getting closer it just keeps hitting us harder.
I'm talkin to her right now! I did tell her everything her repsonse is that she doesn't wanna think/talk about it right now.
:( I think I f*cked up! :(
2007-02-21 15:17:35 · update #1
thats so sweet!
and sad that u'd have to leave her.
talk to her, and tell her how much you care about her, you cant stand being away from her for so long...mention that u love her and want to marry her, so she knows its for long term, so she wont be moving for nothing.
just tell her what you feel and think will be best, but dont push it or force it on her.
let her see what she'll be missing if she decides to stay.
if she truly cant stay without u, she will move.
but u cant say she doesnt love you...you still want her to achieve her dreams...and even though u say theres no job for her there, just let her be if thats the decision she makes.
you sound like a sweet guy, and i dont see why she wouldnt give her soul to be with you
;)
try asking her to marry you before you leave. that would be romantic, if you are ready for it!!!
best of luck with everything!!! :)
2007-02-21 15:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is still in school , and working toward a carreer she wants then just support her decision to stay and finish. When thats done you can look at where you are stationed and see if she wants to join you , or find a job close , or do something else.
Being apart may show her that she really wants to be with you , so if you have spare time see if there is a school nearby that she could attend.
2007-02-21 23:51:47 · answer #2 · answered by mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she should go to her school of choice and if for some reason she does get a job there then great but if not then maybe that will be the time to talk to her about moving but for now i'm sure a long distance relationship will work. She can still come and visit. I hope everything works out for you!!!
2007-02-21 23:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by l_a_hart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am just....first of all, I am in a relationship myself too, although fortunately my boyfriend isn't in the military scene...and we don't have these kinds of obstacles. Your girlfriend really is fortunate to have you in her life, and I just really wish you the best in all the decision-making you two will go through concerning the living, and whether or not you will wait to get married after you finish training of if she will have become your wife before you leave for training. All in all, things will work out for you two if you do love each other enough to have the patience and strength and courage to take risks and just support each other and hold onto each other. I couldn't bear the image of your sepration from your girlfriend either because i know how painful that can be, if being separated for two months from my boyfriend is bad enough, I just....don't know how you can....handle a year? I just really hope and pray for the best of the future for both of you, becuase I know you guys have such a wonderful relationship with each other, and it's so so not worth it to just give up.....and just stop trying. I know that something will work out, in a way that she will be able to acheieve her dreams, finish her education, while you will finish the necessary trainings also. I just really wish that your....boss could....work it out for all of you? Becuase your girlfriend is a priority too....she supports you and....loves you. :).
Best of luck, you have my prayers and my support.
2007-02-22 00:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you have to do, you must be patient. This must be her decision. Haven't you heard "if you love someone, set them free" if they come back to you, you will have them. If not, it was never yours to begin with. You sound like you really love your girlfriend. I really wonder if she feels the same as you do. I am not suggesting that she change her lifes plans of going to the school of her choice, but, I will say, when a woman loves a man, she will follow him. She'll basically be feeling the way you describe your feelings. Slow down, pay close attention!
2007-02-21 23:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by Snobunny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her how you feel, maybe even propose. She may not want to move because she might not understand how serious you feel about the relationship.
How much longer does she have until her course finishes? Can the same course be studied in Washington?
Explain to her your thought process on the matter, she might not realise that she will have to move to make her dream a reality.
2007-02-21 23:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by foodychick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only person who can make the call about their lives is themselves.... get my drift ??? she has a choice about HER life and she has to make it on her own..... You have a choice to make and only YOU can make it..... You each have to respect each others choices in life..... Her schooling is important to her, and your going into the service is important to you..... You support her, she will support you...... If true love is in your hearts the time will come when you will be together..... that simple, that hard....... We each have to live with the choices we make, so do NOT be so hard on urself about yours... there is NO right or wrong in most cases, just what is right for ourselves at the time..... later down the road, she may come to you , if YOU back off and give her the chance to decide, and NOT push YOUR opinion on her...... Talk to each other, be open and honest with your feelings and trust each other to do the right thing for YOURSELVES at THIS time !!!!!!!!!!! God bless
2007-02-21 23:48:39 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see you have good intentions for her . But you should not be the one to decide for her on what she will do with her career. Being far away from her is hard but if you really love each other I am sure that your love will sustain the relationship. What you can do is to respect her decision. If she decides to stay with you and then she realizes that she made a mistake, she will blame you and will end up with resentment.
2007-02-21 23:43:39 · answer #8 · answered by bittersweetlove21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would wait to get married. If she is in love with you she will wait. It will make the homecoming more sweet. It gives you something to look forward to. Let her finish her schooling and she can probably find housing for the two of you while you are away.
That is my humble opinion.
2007-02-21 23:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by momof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess if the army or services wanted people to have g/f or wives they would of distributed them in boot camp....
lol
2007-02-21 23:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by Lioness4460 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋