there is a girl i have been friends with for years and she asked me to a dance, after i said i would go she and i have been talking on aim every night for over an hour, i got her a V-day gift and she said it was the nicest thing anyone had done for her, we talked about how much we enjoyed spending time with each other, but then out of nowhere she makes it VERY clear were only going to the dance as friends.....can you help make sense of this (why lead me on like there was more than a friendship then tell me there isnt)
2007-02-21 14:56:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As evil as it was of her to lead you on, I think she was just flattered that you liked her. She didn't actually say she wanted to be anything more than friends and maybe to her, it didn't mean she was giving you false hopes. But if you like her, tell her that you do and that way you can clarify what it is that's going on between you two. If she doesn't like you yet, you don't have to give up. Just give it some time and maybe with some thought, she'll like you. Hopefully it all works out. Good luck!
2007-02-21 15:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There can be two reasons to this, all leading to one justification.
One, she might of been, only nice to you before, because she doesnt want to hurt your feelings, and she only looks at you as a friend, knowing that you guys have been friends for years, because she doesnt want to loose you as a friend.
Two, she really does like you, but is afraid that having a relationship with you would ultimately loose you as a friend.
My advice to you is, just ask her, talk to her about, in a clear, organized manner. Tell her that yes, she is your friend, but you are starting to have feelings for her, tell her that you just wants to know HONESTLY how she feels about you, so you can work something out, last and but not least, tell her that she is important to you, whether or not she is your friend or your lover, and you are just afraid that this confusion would make your ruin you guy's friendship.
2007-02-21 23:07:34 · answer #2 · answered by Saphire04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She want to take her time or she could be afraid how would anyone would be ending up getting hurt inside. I have been there myself and was afraid of getting hurt so I took my time until I ended up marrying a wrong person. I was hurt and now I am starting again to take my time until I know for sure that person is very let say trustful and honest about the relatioinship. ain't easy to explian but the whole point in my thought that she may be afraid or wanting to take time. but don't worry, that happen sometimes when some girls and even guys would say that as well.
Take care.
2007-02-21 23:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by Deaf Cowgirl 27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's still confused as to how far she wants to take the relationship. She's known you as JUST a friend for so long, and then suddenly things are starting to change. She likes it, but doesn't know if she's quite ready for it. I'd say she definately likes you as more than a friend, but just wants to take it slow. Going as just friends is a good idea.. then take it from there. Don't ask her "why were you leading me on," ect. That could just cause problems. Play it cool and see where it goes. Good luck!!
2007-02-21 23:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is just scared... or wants to take things slow.. Don't worry about it and have fun at the dance. You will know where you stand by the end of the dance so why worry about it until then! Have Fun and Good Luck
2007-02-21 23:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just probably wants to take it slow. You both have been friends for years and even though she likes you very much she may not want to jeopordize that relationship. Just go to the dance as friends and see where it may take you. You never know and you will kick yourself in the butt if you don't take that chance.
2007-02-21 23:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by dolphinnut798 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's just scared. Scared of hurting you. Scared of what you all might become. Since you are such a great friend, she doesn't want to hurt you nor be hurt by you. She enjoys your company and I know you enjoy her's. Give her some time. She'll come around. Good luck.
2007-02-21 23:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by bluegirl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's afraid, some females tend to confuse other peoples emotions when their own emotions are all messed up. she probably thought she liked you and then had a ''breakthrough'', and decided that it wasn't going to work. I'm not taking her side or anything, I'm saying, maybe she was just trying it to see what would happen (unfortunately at your expense). but she sounds like a great friend and would never hurt you on purpose.
2007-02-21 23:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by Grad_gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was probably having fun, having a good time with you, and then realized that you might take it as more. So she cleared the air. Hey she came clean and told the truth. You can't be mad at her for that.
2007-02-21 23:01:45 · answer #9 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she's leading you on. She truly thinks you're friends. It's you that have great expectations. She thinks you're buying her gifts just because you care and that's it. I'm sure she never suspected you to get her something.
2007-02-21 23:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by NicOOd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋