Why does my boyfriend keep forgetting on his promise to take me out to dinner?

Question

I am a very independent person. I never ask my boyfriend to do anything special for me. I always pay for myself whenever we go out. We don't go out on Valentine's day. Normally we just order Chinese food. I don't even ask him to pay for it. He switched jobs about a year ago and since then he's been telling me that he'll take me out to a fancy dinner to celebrate. He hasn't yet :(. During the past year I have also changed jobs. I waited and waited for him to take me out so that I could take him out to celebrate my new job. But he never did. I gave up two months after getting my offer and treated him at a really expensive restaurant. He keeps mentioning that he still needs to take me out, but keeps forgetting to make reservations. Why does he do that? I know that he took his ex-girlfriends to fancy dinners. Why didn't he forget to make reservations when he was going out with them? Why does he keep forgetting to take me out? I feel like I deserve a good treat at least once a year :(

Answer 1

It sounds like sellective forgetfulness to me.... or he isn't placing it as a great importance. Perhaps if you tell him how it makes you feel he will correct his error. If he still ingnors the issue, things might not be so great in your relationship. I have found, by experience, that being honest is the best way to go.

Answer 2

Is it true that he forgets all the time he made promise to redeem them? If not, then once again remind him of his promise to take u out or it will mean that he is not a man of his own word.

Answer 3

First make him remember..... do something drastic. Right now it sounds like he is using you. Trust me I am a big one for the independent thing, but I mean VALENTINES!!!! Either do something to make him realize his mistakes or get out.