I meet my husband 9 months ago we hit it right off and got engaged not more then 4 months later I became pregnant. We decided to keep the baby with the understand we are going to move out ASAP. We live with his parents right now who smoke like crazy and his dad stays home and doesn't work and he plays his music/TV at all hours of the night loud to were I can't sleep and also does pot every once in a while. His temper isn't the best either he yells at everyone. I told my husband I need to move out by the end of march not only for my health but that of the baby. The problem is that he doesn't think we have enough money, which we do we have worked things out thousands of times and each time it works out. I have now told him that we either move out or I leave, he told me to leave cause we can't afford to move out. So should I stay with my husband at his parents house and live with the smoke and every thing or should I leave and take our child with me???
2007-02-21 14:33:04 · 5 answers · asked by tracytlctc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As a mom I have to say, get your baby out of that house!
2007-02-21 14:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a big decision that you will have to make we can tell you what we would do but deep down inside of your heart and mind you have to decide your action. If yoou have a family member whom you can stay with until you get on your feet then do so. If your husband love you and your child enough and really wanna be with you he will step up to the plate be the MAN, HUSBAND and FATHER that he is and get you and his child outta that type of enviroment. When you leave make sure you have somewhere to go and someone who will help you out until you are on your feet. He don't know if you can make it on your own or not if one of you don't make the first move you will never know. What if a neighbor or anyone report his dad doing that type of stuff and your baby is living in that house they will take your child even thou you have nothing to do with it they will look at the enviroment that you have your child living in. Do what you know and feel is best for you and your child, let him stay if he wants you take care of yourself and your child. That is very selfish of him to tell you to leave then he has a lack of faith. Trust me GOD will never put you in any situation that he will not be able to bring you out of. Follow your right mind before you end up loosing your child behind a guy.
2007-02-21 23:05:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a parent who has a good head on her shoulders and can logically see the ability of affording to move out. If your husband can't see the importance it is for you and your baby, then you can't blindly follow him.
I would agree with you and support your decision to move out of that place. It is not the best possible place to raise a family.
I am positive that you will find a place to live in that will not be too expensive for you.
I wish you all the best with your decision and that good things will follow you wherever you go. It's a difficult decision, but in this case, your baby comes #1 on your priority list.
2007-02-21 22:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by Querida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can completely understand your frustration with this. However, you have to be rational as well. If you do move out, where will you go? Do you have a job and do you have a way to feed and support you and the baby? It could be a wake up call to him or it could hurt you in the long run. I say you have to make a plan, be rational and stick with it. Most of all, take care of yourself and the baby!
2007-02-21 22:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by jawana_story 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that once there is a kid involved, their safety takes the first place. You really have the job of putting this kid first, and it sounds like this is not a good home to raise a child in. Sorry.
2007-02-21 22:42:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋