I have a few questions HELP??? ( people with kids only )?

Question

i have a 1 year old she is my first child so im learning as i go
question 1. when and how should i break her from the bottle
question 2. she throws tantrums alot how do i break them and make her understand thats not okay.

Answer 1

First get her off the bottle, to transition her buy the Nubi slippy cups, it has a soft top. As for tantrums our pediatrician told me when my boys had a tantrum to ignore them, do not look at her or try and comfort her, she will then see she is not getting her way or attention from it.

Answer 2

most experts recommend taking children off the bottle when they are one year old. start by gradually replacing one bottle a day with a sippy cup. (this worked very well with my daughter). some people just take away the bottles completely one day and for some that works, some it doesnt, do what you feel comfortable with. as for temper tantrums, this is totally normal for her age. the best thing to do is ignore her when she does this. make sure she is safe, and if possible leave the room. once she realizes that temper tantrums wont get your attention she will stop throwing them. if you are out in public and she throws a tantrum, take her outside or to the car, anywhere where people arent going to stare at her (she interprets this as attention too) until she calms down. i have an 18 month old and i have found that if i say in a stern voice "do you want to go to time out?" my daughter says "no" and stops acting up. the funny thing is, she has never been in time out, nor does she even know what it is, she just hears my tone of voice and knows that it cant be good.

Answer 3

1). As soon as she is eating enough baby food and cereal to keep up with her nutritional needs. A good way to break her of her bottle, is to fill the bottle with plain water, and keep a sippy cup filled with whatever her favorite drink is. She will decide on her own that she would rather have the cup than the bottle.

2). My youngest was just like yours; he threw tantrums. The absolutely best way is to completely ignore her. Don't look at her, don't talk to her, just leave the room. When she is screaming, act like you don't hear her. Any attention you give her, be it positive or negative, will ingrain in her that she's getting what she wants by acting like that. I know it's hard to do, but I believe this is the best way to teach her that throwing tantrums is not the way to get attention.

3) Keep a stiff upper lip, so to speak. My youngest was very hard to break of the bottle, and he threw tantrums. I tell him stories of the way he would stand at the cupboard where he knew the bottles were kept and scream. I have an actual picture of him throwing a tantrum. It's funny now, but I know what you're going through.

Answer 4

I have a 3 year old and a soon to be 1 year old and I work in an infant toddler program at a day care. Try to eliminate the bottle soon. Buy the silicone nubby brand sip cups to start. A lot of parents tend to just put water in the cups but that doesn't work because a sippy cups take more work to drink out of and a child is not going to work harder for something tasteless.
As for the tantrums, I'm battleing that both at home and work and the only thing I can suggest is to have a lot of patience, stay calm (as difficult as that may seem), and above all else don't give in (too often) to his or her (obnoxious) demands cause' it'll bite you in the *** later on.

Answer 5

I wouldn't be in a hurry for the bottle breaking thing. She'll give it up when she feels old enough. Tantrums are normally caused by a need for attention, or the child doesn't feel as though she is being heard. So listen and try to figure out what she really wants. If it is unreasonable, tell her so and then stick to your guns! if she knows she can throw a fit and eventually get her way or your attention, that is what she will do. Give her attention when she is not doing anything bad. and when her requests are unreasonable don't give in, just walk away from the temper tantrum, if possible. If you are in a public place, just pick her up and quietly leave. But don't be her audience. Good luck!

Answer 6

bottle breaking usually happens between the age of 1 and 2 years old. when you are ready to bottle break it is easiest if you begin to give her more sippie cups. do it kind of slow. at first. if she doesn't give it up in 2 weeks, then let her see you throw them away on garbage day and watch the trash man take them then she knows they are gone and there is no reason to have a fit.

as far as tantrums go I have found the best way to end them is to ignore them. while they are having one. never give in no matter what once it works the tantrum will be worse next time.

Answer 7

I am amazed at how many people tell you to break her from the bottle now, just because 'experts' say it is best. I totally disagree. I believe that if things were done totally naturally, with no outside peer pressure, then you would have breastfed until your child was about three years old. In native areas where things are done naturally, they sometimes don't wean until age four. Not only that, but even the experts agree that a child has a strong sucking instinct until they are two years of age.

There is nothing wrong with allowing your baby to satisfy her natural sucking instinct. I believe that she will grow up more emotionally healthy for it. Just be sure to brush her teeth twice a day.

When you do decide to wean her from it (hopefully not for another year anyway), don't be cruel and unkind to her as so many have suggested and wean her "cold turkey". For goodness sakes, she is a baby and cannot understand what in the world you are doing to her, or what has gone so wrong in her life. Leave the 'cold turkey' stuff to grown ups that are trying to quit smoking or drinking and know what is going on!

To wean her more gently, G r a d u a l l y dilute her milk with a bit of water. Each week, make it just a bit weaker. Eventually, she will accept water in her bottle just fine. I have ten beautiful children that are all very emotionally healthy; I weaned them from breast to bottle, and then very slowly from the bottle sometime after age two (some of them closer to three, depending on their personality). You know your child better than anyone. Do not let ANYONE impose a textbook attitude on you; there is no such thing as one size fits all when it comes to your baby.

If you are going to do any reading on any of this, I would highly recommend Dr. Sears instead. He has parented eight children himself, and really cares about little ones.

As for question number 2; temper tantrums are a normal part of life. You know your child best, but consider doing something like this: 1. Speak completely calmly to your child. 2. Repeat whatever it is you are trying to deal with more than once. 3. If the tantrum continues (which it probably will), make sure that your little one is in as safe a place as possible so she doesn't get hurt, and then tell her you are going out of the room (or to sit on the couch near her and pretend to read a book while you ignore it. 4. At age one, I would continue to reassure the child every now and then that you are somewhere in the home (so she doesn't get frightened) while she is continuing her tantrum. 5. As long as she doesn't usually get her way during a tantrum, she should outgrow them. 6. Since you are going to be firm about temper tantrums, then THINK about your answers to her before you say them. If the answer really could be yes, then don't say no without thinking which can cause a tantrum for no really good reason.

Love your little one - this is the only time in her entire life that she will want a bottle anyway!

Answer 8

1.At this point breaking her from the bottle will be hard.
cold turkey is best if you can stand a few days of crying! Try using water instead of milk and see if that works. If its a comfort thing she has to learn to comfort herself.It's tough but for the best!

2.Tantrums are just starting my dear! Ignoring them works best. Go down to her level, look her in the eyes and calmly say" mommy won't listen when you talk that way" Never give her what she wants to get her out of a tantrum..that will make them worse! [think clearing shelves at Wal Mart] You can't 'break' tantrums...they are a natural part of development.
Babies need to be socialized.They need to be taught what is acceptable behavior. Adults would have tantrums too if we thought we could.lol By ignoring tantrums and walking away AND praising her for positive behavior you will be teaching her that it is better to get your attention in good ways! Good Luck!

Answer 9

1. Ideally, by 1 she should already be off the bottle. Only offer her a cup during the day - & let her have the last milk of the day in her bottle. If she has a tough time adapting to this, start offering her favorite juices & milk in a cup & give her something she doesn't care for much in the bottle (it'll turn her off to the bottle).
2. No matter where you are or how embarrassed you feel when she has a tantrum, DO NOT give in to whatever she's throwing a tantrum for. It only takes that one time for her to realize, 'hey, this works. if i cry long & hard enough i'll get my way'. Let her throw it, don't give her the reaction she's looking for.

Answer 10

Well i will tell u this .... the bottle is a big issue , some Dr's say to break it at 1 yr. My daughter was early and had some stomach issues, so i left her on it untill 1 1/2. The bottle should only have milk or water. And if your daughter eats enough durning the day she shouldnt need it durning the night. My older daughter stopped cold turkey....but my younger was much harder...I started only giving it a bed , and then only every few night and then not at all...

And the tantrums...well if u get a good answer let me know, the only thing i try is "time out" and with my little one who is 3 , it works....i give her 3 minutes and it takes a while for them to catch on but she will be consistant . And most of all have lots of patience ...and i know its hard...but it wil get better ...Good Luck

Answer 11

You should break her off the bottle at one year. Just keep giving her the milk, juice, etc. in a sippy cup. The best thing to do when they are first starting is to take out that little plastic piece that makes it so it is spillproof. It's also very hard for a beginner to get anything out of it, and they get frustrated.

As far as the tantrums go, ignore her. If she carries on and on and you ignore her, she be like "hmmm. She doesn't care if I do this anymore, I get no attention." If it gets really out of hand, get down to her eye level, and say "enough". It worked with my kids. Now I just have to give them "the look". Well, most of the time anyways.