This Christian guy I've known forever has flirted with me by: holding me from behind (briefly), sitting in my lap, hugging me, covering my eyes from behind, tickling me and poking me, picking me up, complimenting my appearance, etc.
I'm wondering if you think he went too far as a Christian, and how much physical flirting you think I should allow as a Christian girl.
If you're really a Christian, you're not going to say anything gross.
2007-02-21 14:11:04 · 18 answers · asked by Revelation S 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did not feel violated at any time by this very sweet guy; I'm just wondering how these things appeared to others, because my mom and brother said it looked like more-than-friends, and he had a girlfriend at the time. I don't want to be an idle flirt, because I really like this guy. I am not a prude, but I want to keep my standards high for my husband. Trust me, I want him to do all these things, and he has a real heart for God. He's never made any crude comments to me, but one time he kept poking me in the abs until his friend said, "Dude, stop poking her!", and he isn't even a believing Christian. The guy I like seemed mortified, so I know he would never go farther than I seem comfortable with.
2007-02-21 14:35:58 · update #1
I dont think he went too far, unless it makes you feel uncomfortable. God wants us to be companionably to each other, but no impurities until marriage please!!! You should allow everything that is comfortable to you, and if you dont think it will turn into anything more than flirting, its probably fine.
2007-02-21 14:16:25 · answer #1 · answered by andHallelujah. 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off, YES I am a Christian, and very great full to be one. Now, for your question, what ever amount of flirting you are comfortable with, I think is fine. If you like him, why don't us ask him out? Maybe he is the one God has for you to marry. Trust me, if he is you will know. I will never forget the moment I laid eyes on my husband, I knew that instant he was the one. Good luck sweetie, and God bless.
2007-02-21 14:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Smarty Pants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really all depends on what christainity you are and how much you believe in your faith. Some might believe that it is going a bit far but i dont believe so i feel he was just havin some fun but also respecting you as well, If you felt uncomfortable then i would ask him to stop and explain why you felt that way. I'm a baptist and some of my guys used to do that all the time just to be cute lol but if you feel strange about it i'd ask him to stop. hope this helps you
2007-02-21 14:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by Dark_Fire_Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because u're a christian doesn't mean u shouldn't flirt, the bible doesn't say anything against having a special person and showing small signs of affection, unless it's making you uncomfortable. If him touching u makes you feel uncomfortable, or if you don't want him to, always tell him no! and if he's talking dirty about you, or touching you forcibly in places that are inappropriate, he is definately not following christian rules. just try not to take your relationship (if there is one) to far. God doesn't want us to just sleep around with guys. He wants us to have a true and loving relationship with our special someone.
2007-02-21 14:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by gookers20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no manual in being a christian but the bible in it is pretty detailed as far as the things that are displeasing to God.So I'm not one to judge so you be your own judge.But there is nothing wrong with flirting as long as it doesn't lead to ungodly things.If you haven't read about lusting maybe you should and that will give you more clarity.
2007-02-21 14:20:37 · answer #5 · answered by TRUTH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a christian, I do know where you are coming from. You believe that this type of behavior is inapproprate if you are not courting and it can also led to other things. You should let him know that you do not feel comfortable with his behavior and you would like him to stop. However, if this is a sign that he's trying to tell you that he wants to court you, you two should sit down and discuss your views on that. Good luck.
2007-02-21 14:18:05 · answer #6 · answered by bluegirl5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian girl. I get uncomfortable when guys started physical flirting with me. I will tell them off.
ASk yourself, do you like him? If you don't then tell him you are not ok with all this touchy stuffs. But if you do, confront him and make it clear that you like him so that he will know what to do instead of all these touching!
2007-02-21 14:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by Troy Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not think he went to far, he did not do that much touching and most of his flirting seems like hes a goofy guy, witch is good because you know he will always make you laugh. but do not let someone tell you how to feel, if you think he went to far for you personally then tell him. do not let him make you feel unconformable, but i think you found a good guy. as a christian girl, i have seen most christian guys do a lot worst but most girls don't care about morals anymore.
2007-02-21 14:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh by bible standards, definitely.
I mean, if he's not gonna propose to you, then he should be isolated.
I'm not gonna go into quoting that bible thing. Since it makes me sick and all.
At least thats what the Christians I know say.
Personally, if you like him, you should be happy.
Jeez, it's not like he's raping you. He's being nice and showing he likes you.
And he's being pretty nice about it too.
I'm pretty sure your god wont mind.
I'm not a christian anymore.
(i was forced to be one for 18 years..of course i'm not anymore.)
i'm just saying...oh nevermind.
theres no way to get you to enjoy life a little.
2007-02-21 14:20:56 · answer #9 · answered by sheepeshlysheepy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sitting in your lap may have been too much...
your body is a temple of God, and you are loved by Him dearly, so you should expect respect from him.
i think he is still okay, as long as hes not making crude comments or anything.
pursue this if its a God-centered relationship.
2007-02-21 14:16:47 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_plumeria 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋