have known this guy for like two years, and he really likes me. At first I just shrugged it off, but now I really like him. He and I are interested in the same things, and we talk a lot, but here are some difficulties: hes a grade younger than me, but we're the same age becuz i have a summer b-day and got into school early, he's a little boyishly gross sometimes, but what boy isnt? Also, I told him id go out with him in the summer, so i didnt have to deal with my friends who hate him. but now i want to go out with him, and i dont know how to ask, or if i should.
i am sort of shy, and he would tell my friends that i asked him out, he didnt ask me out, and they would go crazy. i dont know what to do!
2007-02-21 14:08:34 · 8 answers · asked by andHallelujah. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, ask him out if he doesn't make the first move. What are you guys just going to stand around there playing the first move game or something? No, I think that's just childish. Speak your mind. You are right, boys are just boys. What's wrong with age? Numbers got nothing to do with it, and both of your age doesn't make a big difference. So what, if he's a letter grade down from you, I would take that chance if I had one. Oh come on, those friends aren't even your real friends, they probably don't want to see you happy. I would rather side with a guy that likes me then a friend who hates him. Would you rather have you pick your boyfriend or your friends picking your boyfriend? Ask him now and ignore everybody's criticisms and comments. Do it now before you regret doin it in the summer because who knows, maybe he'll find another girl that he'll like or he doesn't want to wait around for you. Time changes people. So grasp it while you can and while it's still there. Good Luck. Oh yeah, and what's more important, making your friends happier or yourself and him?
2007-02-23 08:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let your friends dictate who you like, although if you respect their opinions you should factor them in. do they dislike him for a good reason? has he been rude to them? if so, your relationship isn't going to go so great if you constantly have to choose between them.
if you like him, it shouldn't really matter what grade he's in. boyishly gross is acceptable occasionally :)
if you really can't wait till summer (which is doubtful), try doing some things that aren't considered dates ie: going to the park, beach, or something. casually ask him to hang out and maybe he won't assume it's a date and blab to everybody...or ask him not to tell, if you think that would work.
2007-02-21 14:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by Revelation S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just b nice 2 him. If he really wants to he will ask again and again. Trust me when they are that into you they keep trying.
If he doesn't he is just not that into you. I saw that on Opray Winfrey. Lots of times girls get a mixed message. Guys are just being nice and women then they like them.
don't start out by asking him it will never work. Men are the persuers. they are the hunters they have to know they won you over. Never get desperate, there is more out there.
Just chill.
2007-02-21 14:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by Ruth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he likes you then why hasnt he asked you out yet? Do you know why your friends dont like him? Because they might know something about him that you dont and you probably dont wanna know!! Boys are tricky things! They think women are confusing creatures!! If you really like him then dont be shy, just go for it! You only live once girl, go for it! But may i ask how old you are?!!? You'll never no, if you never go!!
2007-02-21 14:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by Danneedadvice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you plan on letting your friends make all your decisons for you for the rest of your life? Do what makes you happy and dont worry about what others say
2007-02-21 14:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by jinx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for his email add. You guys could chat the whole day. Then ask him out. Its really simple. Be brave girl!
2007-02-21 14:11:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him out. Life is too short. You will understand when you get older.
2007-02-21 14:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by AnchovySoden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he'll grow up--he's in puberty. bugs and boobies facinate him.
and if you dont really like him, move on.
will this really matter in 5 years anyway?
2007-02-21 14:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by sheepeshlysheepy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋