my boyfriend's life is totally messed up!
his dad is in the army and is kind of hard on him
he has a stepmom that totally hates him. every single
night, she yells at him, throws things at him, cusses
at him, and is really mean to him.
his real mom lives in scotland, and now his stepmom
doesn't want to pay for the trip anymore.
he has friends that hate me and encourage him to break up with me all the time. he hates his house and has no one to talk to but me. i feel like he deserves a way better life. how do i help him???
2007-02-21 13:51:33 · 10 answers · asked by gookers20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Right now, you need to remember that this is a situation going on in his family and that you shouldnt interfere with that. But something you CAN do is give him the emotional support that he needs-no matter what his friends are saying about you. If they were really his friends, then they would respect his choice of who he has as a girlfriend. Show your boyfriend that you care for him, give him company. Ask him if he needs to talk, you will be there for him. If he knows that you are there behind him through this tough time, he will appreciate it.
good luck, and I hope things will improve.
2007-02-21 14:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stay there and be there for him to talk to. You can't actually get him out of anything, because in doing that your showing him that he can always run away from his problems. When it's time he can always stand up to his dad, and tell his step mom that she never really mattered. It couldn't have always been this bad, and one day mabye everyone will figure out where it all went bad. Until then just be there for him and let him know that once you hit bottom the only way to go is up.
2007-02-21 13:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by mighty1981mouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can really give any advice on such a matter. If he has nobody to talk to about these issues, then I suggest you be there for him like you are. He needs a friend like you and as long as one good person is there for him, it can make a difference in his life.
2007-02-21 13:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wsounds liek it's beyond your help. But, it sounds like his parents would happy if he was uout of the house, so maybe invite him over to your house a lot jsut to hang. Maybe even your parents could sort of act as parents to him. I know my friend talks to my parents abotu personal stuff all the time, cause his parents arn't very caring. OS, when he needs help, he jsut comes over or calls them up or something and talks it out cause they know what his parents are like and are more than willing to help him out.
So, try to get your parents involved! Talk to them abot what it's like at his house, and maybe then, also, they'd be more apt to let him hang out more often.
As for his friends, who really cares?! It's nice if your bfs friends like you, but as long as he does, what really matters?
Social services is a good option, too. Since it sounds liek your still school age, try and get him involved in clubs or sports, too! That might take his mind of the family. Also, if he does decide he needs oficial help, talk to the school counsolor or trusted teacher. They'll help him get the help he REALLY needs.
And jsut, be there for him. I have freinds that whenever one of us gets mad, we yell at the other. Neither take it personally, since we know the other isn't mad at us, jsut mad in general. If it's bearable for you, let him yell and scream when hes distressed and maybe then you can be his vent for all that emotion that is built up inside of him.
2007-02-21 13:58:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy him a one way tickeet to Scotland.
2007-02-21 13:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him. When he's talking, just listen and speak only when it's appropriate. There may be times you don't like what he's saying...he's just venting.
Continue to be supportive and let him know you care.
2007-02-21 13:57:15 · answer #6 · answered by brotherb95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for him.
Tell him that he can call you no matter what time and that your house is always open.
Call social services b/c of his step-mom...of course...talk to him about it.
Just be there for him.
2007-02-21 13:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...sounds like my life...
depends on age..im 18..so i can umm..move out.
good luck!
2007-02-21 13:56:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be there for him. you can't do anything about the rest of his drama, but you can always be there for him when he needs you.
2007-02-21 13:55:35 · answer #9 · answered by Jayce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend is a mama's boy and he's also gay
2007-02-21 13:55:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋