I have four very good friends standing up with me in July. We picked two complimantary colours, and the Alfred Angelo line of dresses. Each bridesmaid can pick which colour (of the two) they prefer, and what style of dress or seperates they want. Three have ordered their dresses, but one is dragging her heals and has not ordered. I know that the money is not the problem (she is very well off financially). Time doesn't seem to be an issure either, she has two days off a week, works days, and is single with no children. Does anyone have any ideas as to what the problem could be? When I ask her about the dresses, she just says she will go.
2007-02-21 13:43:46 · 11 answers · asked by July Wedding Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I had the same problem with my sisters ordering their dress. I just kept nagging them until they ordered them. In the end everything worked out fine, they ordered them in time and came in on time (they just didn't order them by the deadline I initially gave them). I think your friend may be experiencing the same thing my sisters did - they had intentions to do it, but they just didn't for know real particular reason at all. They had planned to do it, but then would put it off for another day. Then they finally ordered them. I would just periodically reminder your friend that she really needs to get this done until she does it. If it gets down to 3 months before your wedding and she still hasn't ordered it, tell her the final deadline is X date. If she hasn't ordered it by then, you'll have the orders go in without hers since it is usually suggested your order bridesmaids dresses 2-3 months in advance..
2007-02-21 15:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know time is not an issue. Just because she has two days off doesn't mean she isn't still busy, or that her job keeps her busy. Why not just tell her that she needs to order the dress now and explain to her how you think her actions make her seem like she might not want to be a part of yor wedding. I'm sure after an honest conversation,she'll either get the dress or not.But you shouldn't assume that she isn't busy
2007-02-21 21:55:02 · answer #2 · answered by lily_shaine 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Telll her that if she doesn't want to be in your wedding you understand (whether you do or not), but that you need everyone to have their outfits ready to go; that she may think you're being anal but hey, it's just how you are.
Tell her she has XXX days to get the dress ordered. If she doesn't take that as a sign that she really doesn't want the honor and move on.
2007-02-21 22:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try making it fun for her. Maybe treat her to lunch with an understanding that after that, you will go together and choose her dress. Or give her a time limit and tell her that you will pick for her or maybe choose someone else if she has changed her mind about doing it.
2007-02-21 21:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is really busy, maybe shes uncomfortable with her body, a procrastinater or doesnt like the dresses. it could be a number of things. Try bringing her out to lunch and order her dress with you there
2007-02-21 22:07:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you suggest going out to lunch and ordering the dress with her? It would make it more fun and it woud be harder for her just to put it off. Congrats on your wedding!
2007-02-21 21:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by Summer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't think of what may be her problem may be. maybe she is just lazy...or doesnt like the colors! When you asked her to be your bridesmaid was she excited??? Some people r just lazy like i said,
2007-02-21 21:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by J<3R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell her that she needs to get it done by a specific date or she will not be in the wedding. that way if it's an issue about her not really wanting to do it or something, you'll know
2007-02-21 22:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe offer to pay for it and see what happens. I am paying for all of my bridesmaids dresses and the groomsmens tux's...i think thats the proper ediquette.
2007-02-21 22:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe she is a procrastinator. But you need to stress to her the importance of getting it done now.
2007-02-21 21:55:27 · answer #10 · answered by Dawnita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋