My boyfriend of 7 months asked me to marry him at a concert last week. We were both drinking and I was almost drunk. I told him it wasnt an appropriate time because we were drinking. He thinks I was wrong for saying this. Was I?
2007-02-21 13:29:17 · 9 answers · asked by anngeez2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Bottom line: Absolutely NOT.
Why?
Alcohol impairs judgement. Yeah, we all like to feel a little buzzed, but there is no refuting the scientific proof that alcohol impairs judgement, especially when you have a lot of it.
Maybe he only asked you because you were drunk, and if you'd answered, your level of drunkeness could have affected your answer.
Now looking at it from his point of view... he may feel hurt or rejected because you didn't say yes. Which brings us to the next point.
The real issue here is the question. He has an "out", now, because you were both drunk. But if he doesn't take that out, then he really does want to marry you and you should answer him.
Don't make the scenario during which the question was asked become the focal point here. If he really did just ask because he was drunk, then try to get him to drop it. Just explain that you were drunk and didn't know what you were saying and didn't feel comfortable talking about something like that when you were drunk.
If he loves you he will understand and let go of it eventually. All you need to do is offer reassurance that you're not rejecting him.
And if you love him, and his proposal still stands, and you decide that you do want to marry him, then SAY YES!!! (and congratulations if you do!)
If his offer stands and you say yes but he still won't let this thing go, tell him something like "I didn't want to say yes and risk not remembering everything the next day", etc. etc.
2007-02-21 13:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by wa-webguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that when you're drunk you reveal your deepest most darkest true feelings, maybe you're not ready for marriage yet. Also, no I don't think u were wrong because a proposal should be a memorable experience and something you can look back on. Can you really see yourself making a lifelong commitment to this guy, its only been 7 months!He can always ask you again when your not drunk!no problemo! xxx
2007-02-21 21:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by *Evie* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are absolutely right with what you did. It almost doesnt seem sincere when they ask you drunk. That is a memorable moment in a womans life. And wouldnt you rather be sober for it....
2007-02-21 21:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by Simply Complicated 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you werent a 'marry me' kinda thing should be romantic not while your drunk and might not remember it in the morning while the sun, nose and everything is bugging you from your hang over.
2007-02-21 21:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by Rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely right. You are more matured in this. Try to explain the situation u were in (he also knows that). Better tell him taking decision on somethin serious will be dangerous during that time.
2007-02-21 21:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Confusion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they say the truth comes out when you're drunk... so he deffinitely wants to marry you... but it doesn't seem like a real proposal... tell him you'd like an 'official' proposal... drop a hint or two...
2007-02-21 21:32:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You two were drunk. Stuff like that shouldn't be done when you're buzzed.
2007-02-21 21:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by brotherb95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you were absolutly right in saying that. hes just mad because you didnt accept right then and there.
2007-02-21 21:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not one bit.
2007-02-21 21:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋