how long after getting married do YOU think you should wait until having kids? 1 year...4 years...6 years...what?
2007-02-21 12:59:48 · 31 answers · asked by Love Doctor 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know it's really a couple relationship, but i was just wondering what everyone else thought...what you would do.
2007-02-21 13:05:52 · update #1
I think you should wait at LEAST 3 years to have kids.
Why?
1) You two need to grow as a married couple. Marriage is MUCH different than dating, and you two need to gain a strong base before adding kids to the mix. If you don't DON'T have a strong relationship before you have kids, the first 3 months are going to tear you two apart.
2) Financially you two need to figure out where you are going. Buy a house, get a new car, and settled into a stable financial situation. Things are going to happen, and going on unemployment while pregnant or with a newborn is TOUGH. Get things put together now.
2007-02-21 13:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should wait until you both have good jobs, a house, and good money to be able to take care of the kids. If only one of you work, then that person must make enough money to maintain the family.
Otherwise, no kids and keep on working hard to make more money and buy a house of your own (or at least rent a nice one for the family).
On the other hand, if you got married not too long after you met your wife, then even if you have money and a house and goof jobs, you should consider living together for a while, get to know each other better, see if you two are really ready to take car of kids, and also get to go out and enjoy your life as a free couple. That free life will go down when kids arrive. Don’t forget that.
In years, it is impossible to say. Each should know when they are ready. I know it, my Wife does, and we will be having kids in about a year or so from now. We have been together for 8 years. Married for 2.
2007-02-21 13:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say 1 year at the least and 3 at the most. 1 year because it allow you and your wife to have sometime to enjoy your marriage and each other. Children, even if its only one, can change your relationship a lot, where you would just get up and go, you cant quite do that anymore. So i think newlyweds should wait, at least a year, just for some couple time.
2007-02-21 13:06:22 · answer #3 · answered by Kourtney Hall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a good idea to wait AT LEAST one full year before thinking about kids. This way the married couple can enjoy their married life and have fun before kids come into the picture. Plus, they have time to talk about it longer like how many they want and how to discipline them. Of course, though, these things should be talked over before getting married...but yea, at least a year.
2007-02-21 13:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by ThornQueen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Totally depends on your lifestyle. If you guys travel, party, do random crazy **** a lot then you should wait to have kids. If you just work your 9-5 and watch tv then having a kid wouldn't be as much of a "buzz kill" to your lifestyle. Just remember your making a 18 year commitment so please make sure your ready before you mess with someone else's life.
2007-02-21 13:04:56 · answer #5 · answered by Troy Burnique 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its matter a fact of when you both feel its best but Id personally say between 4-6 years because anything before 4 years thats just too soon.
2007-02-21 13:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by Rachael 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it depends on how stable the relationship is. i would wait at least a year or two, just to have time to enjoy my partner, and make sure the relationship is strong enough to handle a kid.
2007-02-21 14:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by Jayce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends how many little kids u want around the house, how much time u guys have on your hands, money and everything you should discuss it with your married partner. because thats the only way you will know. but normally i would gues about 3-4 years apart. but it all depends on what you want.
2007-02-21 13:03:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it all depends on both your lives and weather you can accomodate a child as well as raise, care and provide for the child. It is not easy and it is not cheap. But it is an extension of your love for each other and will bring much happiness into your family.
I know this i have 3.... the best things in my life, my kids.
good luck
2007-02-21 13:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Till the time you both fully understand each other & reach to a climax where you both admit that you are one not two. Admit that non of you can live without other it may takes year one to six.
2007-02-21 13:11:25 · answer #10 · answered by P S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋