I told her I would think about it and she wouldn't do anything without my permission but I only feel comfortable with her...and she's not a professinal an she wants me to see one
2007-02-21 12:39:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Rape is one of those things that leaves victims scarred long after the actual event. They begin to second guess themselves...Did they encourage it, did they somehow ask for it? Did they actually enjoy it? Was it rape or actually a date? Why couldn't they have seen what was coming and so on?
There is no cure, only acceptance and understanding that you were a victim... after what can be a long long time. I once had a patient who was so guilty because she remembered her own orgasm's, while her father raped her as a child at 11-17. She thought she wanted it!!!
Not true of course! What causes men to rape? It is a multifaceted answer, but essentially it starts with resentment toward women, and ends up being a control thing. Showing they are superior, that they can make their victim do anything they want..and so on. It gives the rapist, a sense of power, but the cost to both sides, is enormous on an emotional level.
Men who are repeatedly raped in prison, often are never able to accept their masculinity again, and often commit suicide, or other acts of self mutilation.
Get counselling fast, it won't solve the problem overnight, but it is the only viable solution.
2007-02-25 05:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she know of a support group for people your age? Maybe she can go with you, at least the first time so you feel a bit more comfortable the first time. But do get some help (support groups are really good, you'll find you're not alone, and find a group of friends who totally understand what you are and have been going through). Sometimes a support group moderated by a therapist is exactly what is needed, just a place to vent, to dump all your mixed feelings, to talk about what happened with people who have been there and who can offer you support and a shoulder and suggest ways for your to find yourself again. Your teacher might be able to ask someone more professional to suggest a group you can join.
2007-02-21 14:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by Inundated in SF 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you are coming from on this one. You feel comfortable talking to your teacher but she tells you that she can only be there to listen, she is not a professional. You have to understand that she sees you coming to her as a cry for help and the only way she can provide that to you is by sending you in the right direction. She can't wave a magic wand and make your pain and fears go away. So let her help you. Maybe she will go with you to talk to a professional. That would make the situation more comfortable and she could be there for you the whole way. The road to recovery is not a smooth one, but it is worth it. Start with seeing a Sexual Assault Victim Advocate, they are people that specialize in helping people cope with sexual assault.
2007-02-24 20:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by painful22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's right you need to see a pshyciatrist/therapist. You've gone through something tramatic and if she's the first person you've opened up to, or someone who was helpful to you, you feel safe with her. However that is part of whats going on with you. Talk to a professional, because they can help you work through this stuff. And I am so sorry for what happened to you.
2007-02-28 13:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by Kellie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like really good advice. None of us non-professionals are really going to know how to deal specifically with your problem. You need to start seeing someone so you can deal with all the trauma that the experience caused in your life. And depression is a medical condition that needs professional treatment. There is help out there and you should get it.
2007-02-21 12:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should see a professional and have an open mind which will help in your healing process because you mentioned that you are comfortable talking with your teacher, try a professional and give it some time.
2007-02-21 12:50:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jane_Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something as traumatic as you have experienced needs to be dealt with by seeing a professional on a regular basis until you have worked through the emotions and fears that were created by the experience that you have been through. also being in group therapy with others that have been in the same predicament helps you to see that you will be okay. i hope that you reported the incident to the police and the perpitrator is in prison. smile, smile, and smile some more, it will make you feel better the more that you smile.
2007-02-21 13:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by jnjrothermel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with your teacher. you need to talk to someone about this who can help you. depression is very tough to deal with. i know because i have lived with depression for about 10 years now. the sooner you get some help, the better off you will be. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-21 12:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with your teacher. a professional would help you so much ask her to help you find a good one. God will give you beauty for ashes . he has me! It will only get worse if you dont get help with this issue. Rape is about agression and control not sex.
God bless and take care! Hang strong and get help and someday you can help someone too! God bless
2007-02-25 15:07:42 · answer #9 · answered by tennessee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you go as advised,see if she wants to go with you or talk to your parents, It isn't easy
but you get through with professional help. go before you get more depress and it's harder to get help, It happened to me and I'm here to let you know life goes on and you got to get this settled
2007-02-21 12:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by yuchi1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋