I am 40 weeks pregnant, and my daughter is going up north for a week to see her dad. I tried to schedule her trip so that she would be home for her brother to be born, but things just didn't work out that way. How can I make the transition easier if I go into labor while she is away? I don't want to be rude and ask them to bring her home because she doesn't get to spend time with her dad all that much. He tends to work a lot. Any suggestions?
2007-02-21 12:36:14 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I have talked to my daughter about having her little brother. She rubs my stomach, and we bought one of those devices so she can hear the heart beat. She plays with her baby dolls, and calls them her little brother. Her dad lives five hours away, and I really don't want to take this time away from her.
2007-02-21 12:59:52 · update #1
Kids adjust really well, but I think the main concern here is that you make sure SHE knows she's not being sent away and the new baby is taking her place...that would be an awful thing for her to imagine. From a kid's point of view, even the term "New Baby" kind of sounds like 'new' as in 'replacement' - and if she's sent off around that time, she might imagine a terrible scenario like this.
2007-02-21 12:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by darligraphy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your daughter help out with as much planning of the new baby as possible. If she is able to be a part of this, then she will feel more comfortable when the time comes. Do not make her feel like she has lost any of your attention. Continue to show her just as much love and make time to spend with her one on one.
2007-02-22 01:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her baby dolls, read her books about being a big sister, talk to her about a new baby. Try ti get together with others with babies.
If that is the only time she can see her dad let her go. gives you a few days to relax. When you do have the new baby call her if she is at her dads tell her about it. Praise her for being a big sister. Email or mail her pics
2007-02-21 20:46:16 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to call your daughter's dad or a relative to set up a meeting place to pick your daughter. If the travel is far, meet in the middle. Your situation is the exact same one as my mother's when I was little, she met my father half way when I was visiting him. I hope it works for you. Congrats with your new little one!!!!
2007-02-21 20:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by KANEchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋