well i have a step mom n man we donot get along at all i mean i live in a hostel n rearly come home n still the woman wouldnt look at me .n when ever i leave the room she starts talking about me n when i confronted her with it she started talking about all that that had happened b4 .k i admit i m not perfect but its gotten real bad the female hates me n worse of all i have a week off n my dad wont let me stay in the hostel . he persists that i come back home i dont know how i'll deal with her help me plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-21 11:52:07 · 3 answers · asked by well thts it...... 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just be straight with her. Say..."listen, I know we've had our differences in the past, but I'd like to call a truce and try and get along with each other." If she doesn't want to then she will be showing her immaturity. Maybe you could sit down with her and your Dad, that way your Dad will see you are making an effort. If they see you in taking the first step, maybe they will forget about the past and start thinking of a better future for everyone involved. Best of wishes...
2007-02-21 12:12:49 · answer #1 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
although this is really really big to you and your so so stressed out and your hurting inside... this is actually a common situation and very simple in theory.
ONE you did a good thing by saying "i admit im not perfect" That's actually the fist step.
SECOND Go HOME. not being there isn't helping the situation. you have to confront it. PEACE or Good is the only thing that can combat BAD. you have to figure out what the situation is.
and you'll have to keep an open mind. because her reasoning for being the way she is may be because of something you are doing. a way YOU are being. you apparently are a child. granted a teenager maybe, but basically you and your step mom are women in one house hold and only ONE OF you can be the top dog. you BOTH need to respect each other but you have to get to a point where you respect her for being what she is an adult and a loved one of your fathers.
DON'T LEAVE. if you leave you are prolonging the war. you have to come to terms and make peace. do it in steps.
Good luck. contact me if you want more specifics in things you can do.
your a good person or you wouldn't be here asking this. so i know you can make it.
2007-02-21 20:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by lfis492aa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would appear that you really need to sit down and have a heart to heart with your dad and step mom. No yelling, no accusations. Put your feelings on the table, and hear her side too. Your dad must be present, and perhaps a neutral person (a church pastor, an aunt or uncle, someone who you all will listen to). It's not always easy to understand each other but when feelings get hurt it makes it harder. Seek the advice of your school counselor or a trusted adult who will help you to approach your father and step mom about a meeting. I hope you all can come to an understanding and mutual respect and at least making your life bearable. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-21 20:19:25 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋