I have been seing a guy for a year, we split up a few months ago but we are still in contact and really appreciate each other company. He's seeing someone now but tells me it's not serious and that in his mind he want to get back with me but not right now. I really like him but as it's more him that wanted to broke up I don't know if I should wait especially when I always thought it sounded pathetic to wait for someone. I don't understand why if he wants to get back together why it doesn't dump his girlfriend now and why he wants to wait. Some friends say that he might want to be with me when he'll be ready to settle down but I am not sure...Guys opinion please?
2007-02-21 11:44:42 · 17 answers · asked by Tina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well we are like that
cant decide
its okay
as long as you satisfy him better than she did
he will come running back to you soon
2007-02-21 11:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey you do not need a guys opinion. I have had this same line pulled on me so I know. He wants to keep you on the back burner in case this new thing don't work out. Your instincts are exactly right, listen to them. What are you waiting for with this guy anyway. If he was the one for you there would be no waiting....period.
Go on with your life and forget this guy. when he is ready to settle down it will be with what ever girl is is with at that time. He is not gonna come back to you. You will sit and wait and be waiting when you hear about his wedding to someone else. Do not let him make a fool of you. Go find your love, It is not him.
2007-02-21 11:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy one because I've done the same thing. He's basically stringing you along as his backup. Just incase things with the new girl doesn't work out he knows he can always get back with you. Never wait for a guy. If he truly wanted to be with you HE WOULD! and he's not. The only reason is that your his back up girl! And anyways, would you really want to be with a guy that doesn't want to be with you and is with someone else? You are wasting your time. Move on.
2007-02-21 11:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait, don't waste your time, when you could be meeting someone that really cares for you. He is just keeping you in the back ground in case he breaks up with his girlfriend,(you are his back up plan). If he really wanted you, he would have all ready broken up with you. You can do better, and you know that, or you would not have asked.
2007-02-21 11:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess he is not ready for a serious relationship,he just wants to play for a little bit more.He surely knows that you are a special girl for him.I would advice you not to wait for anything...i mean wait and see what the future will bring for you guys...and live your life at the same time.
2007-02-21 11:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, yo' mama need to slap you silly. What do you mean wait for him! Didn't she teach you that you don't wait for no man? Now listen up. You have too much time on your hands. You shouldn't even be talking to him. What you need to do is show him that you have places to go and things to do. Your life and time is precious and it is not about waiting on him while he goes shopping and tasting all of the fruit. Don't you have some schoolwork to do? How are your grades? Don't you have to prepare yourself for college? If you waste your time now on this loser, I'd hate to think of how the rest of your life will play out. Get started now and start having more respect for yourself.
2007-02-21 12:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by DARMADAKO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the same way he does, he might want to settle down his worries before dating and getting intimate...
Another possibility is that he dowsn't want to go out with you but he is afraid to tell you that because you said you guys were close and appreciated each others. This case you have to determine your feelings and also understands what he is feeling inside.
Too intense pressure on him (by waiting) can make him feel confined and stressed and guilty
2007-02-21 11:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by Hanuki K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's dating and enjoy the company of another girl, and telling you she's meaningless, but one day he really wants to be with you..??? Is he telling her she means nothing to him, and he'll eventually dump her to be with you?
He sounds like a jerk. If he cared about you (or women in general for that matter) he'd be with you. He's using both of you.
2007-02-21 11:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks to me like he wants to have that proverbial cake and eat it too. You should confront him nicely. Maybe make it worth his while to tell you that you really like him, but if it is not mutual, then he should quit leading you on. If he doesn't know by now, maybe he never will. So, maybe you should find someone else you are comfortable with for future romance?!?!?!
2007-02-21 11:49:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and find someone else and he will soon decide if he wants to be with you or not. That would make him jealous!
In any case you should just go and find someone that really wants to be with you rather than someone that is stringing you along.
2007-02-21 11:54:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl he's putting you on hold just incase the relationship he's in now doesnt work out . forget him and go on with your life he's not worth waiting around for he's playing you for a fool .
2007-02-21 11:48:24 · answer #11 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋