hi all i had sex with my ex boyfriend on our first date and by the way i was the one who made the first moved i was older than him for 5 years after we had sex in the motel (he was the one who asked for sex and paid for the motel) i asked him if he likes me then he said yes after 3 weeks i called him then went out again our relationship lasted for 2 years but no commitment at all we seldom see each other we had sex less than 10 times we dont talk about our relationship you know what i mean my question is do you think this guy only wants me in bed and one more thing is i always give him gifts and i did not receive anything except for the roses he gave to me after i gave him an expensive gift hes the one who broke up with me he ended his relationship with me he said we need to stop this what do you think guys can i call him my ex boyfriend or not because we do not have any commitment he can do whatever he wants and i can do too please help me i just want to know if he just wants sex
2007-02-21 11:40:57 · 20 answers · asked by marilou m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you realize you don't have a single period in this post?
You can call him corned beef if you want to. What you call him depends on how YOU felt about him...not how he felt about you. If you had a 'relationship' for 2 years with no commitment...then one or both of you have commitment issues. How can he break up with you, if you're not a couple? YES he only wants sex. It's easy for him. You obviously thought more of your relationship than he did, if you gave him gifts and he accepted them, but never aknowledged your birthday or gave you anything in return. Forget him. Move on.
2007-02-21 11:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
SEX on a first date is a big NO NO for me because if you go then guys may think that youre like that in your previous relationship so if i were you the next time you go on a date dont give it all the way you have to know the guy first before you make love on him guys are guys their nice in the first place but later on you can tell that they just into SEX only and most of them wants to have it (sex)on the first date after getting that then they will ask for more i hope you learn from your mistake and please dont do the first move if you want to have a real commitment by the way how old are you then
2007-02-21 13:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by ethan r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like the saying goes: "Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?".
That's not a slam against you--that's simply to say that you gave him exactly what he wanted when you first met him. All he wanted was sex (why else would he ask on the FIRST date?), and I'm positive he wasn't looking for anything else from you. That's exactly why there was no commitment from the get-go.
It's unfortunate, but even though you felt like you were doing him (and yourself) a "favor" by giving one another space, you kind of bit your own foot off in the end. Now that it's been long enough for him to get bored with things in the "non-relationship", he can move on and have sex with another acquaintance.
The key word there is "acquaintance". What you two had was not a relationship; therefore, my answer to your second question is no, you can not technically call him your "ex".
2007-02-21 11:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, what you and him had was just sex. did you guys do anything besides have sex? like have dinner together? he did the right thing by ending it.. i think thats the best move. you can't call him your ex-boyfriend because you and him were not in a relationship together. him not providing you with gifts means that he didn't really think that highly of you.. it was just sex. and it shows that you liked him more than just sex cause you gave him gifts which meant you probably wanted more than just sex.. you wanted a commitment. at least he respected you enough to put a stop to it.. any other guy would of probably just hang in there for the sex.
2007-02-21 11:49:40 · answer #4 · answered by Blake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey - call him you ex please..... The guy only wanted a sex kitten. Meeting you in a motel - doesn't that seem odd to you? HE ONLY WANTS SEX - you know this yourself, so why ask the question! HE ONLY WANTS SEX. HE ONLY WANTS SEX. Keepo that in your mind and move on and find someone who can definately treat you better and at least has some respect for you and your body. Find another guy. Straighten your hair, put on some lippy, wipe away the smudged mascara and embrace the world. Don't ever hide in a motel room again unless you are role playing with your long time partner!!!!
2007-02-21 11:48:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this was a casual sexual relationship that went on for 2 years, during which time you gave him gifts and emotional support. He was a friend and a boy yes, so if you want to say boyfriend that is fine. However there was never a commitment. If you fell for him, that was a mistake on your part.
2007-02-21 11:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by Nails 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i am a woman and i can tell you the answer to that one it is yes he just wanted sex and he is not really your ex if you 2 were never commited find a guy who wants to give you the expensive gifts instead and try to stop being just a booty call
2007-02-21 11:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by HOT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like he just wanted sex and seems like he's found someone else to get that from. so yes i think you could say its over and doesnt sound like there was very much there to start with i would advice you to go on with your life you deserve better than what you got . i would say that next time it would be a good idea maybe to wait until the relationship develops further before you bring sex into it.
2007-02-21 11:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you on about?
you had sex with him on your first "date" in a paid hotel room...what does that tell you?
It's obvious he only thinks of you as a sex object since that's what you presented to him in the first place.
If you want a serious relationship - try to act alittle more ladylike in the future. Have some respect for yourself and build your self esteem...
actually - forget about a relationship with anyone for now and find out who you are first.
2007-02-21 11:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No commitment = No relationship.
You confused casual sexual encounters with a relationship.
Move on. And don't knock boots with guys on the first date anymore.
2007-02-21 11:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by Texasippi Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋