I usually have about 4 one night stands in one week and I am starting to think maybe I should stop.What should I do????
2007-02-21 11:37:04 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you should keep trying to catch a social disease, like maybe warts or something. That way you can give it to a lot of other people.
2007-02-21 11:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by kyla_bean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like it is way too many in one week. If you are mentally healthy though you may be just loving experimenting with many partners and thus keep it up. However, your extreme promiscuity may be your answer for some sort of self defeating disorder you may be experiencing. Perhaps you feel accepted or sexy from all the attention? Maybe you had some horrible experience such as being raped that skewed your vision of sexuality and men in general? You should really take a look at why you are so promiscuous. If it is for any reason other than just a love of sex, and variety, you should seek some counselling to resolve whatever issue needs resolving.
Good luck!
2007-02-21 11:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by carpentryman05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try asking yourself why you like one nighters so much.? You can find one guy to do the deed and leave by morning. You don't have to be with a different man each night. You might want to get some help for sex addiction. There is no law that says you have to settle down with one guy bet you're living dangerously. I'm not talking about STDs. I'm talking about bring home a guy that wants more than just sex. You might meet a guy or girl that wants your life. Many serial killers look for people that are free spirited like you. They look for people that are willing to go some where private with them. Someone that is trusting and unaware of the dangerous possibilities. Now for the STDs that you can get with a condom. You can get herpes weather you use one or not. Not just on your genital either. A simple kiss on the hand or cheek can pass it on to your face and hand. If you don't want to be with the same man every night. Try getting a shorter list of men you've already been with and rotate. Nonetheless you need to get some help for your addiction to sex. In the meantime buy yourself 10 different sex toys and have a one night stand with yourself for a while.
2007-02-21 11:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by quel772o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, are you an addict? If you think so there is help out there, this problem is more recurring than you think. Is there a void in your life your trying to fill? I mean not to be mean but through getting clean (drugs), and lots of meditation and prayer I found that was the reason I was getting around...not as much as you but it is the same idea. Find yourself within and try to understand why you do this to yourself. Do you actually enjoy it? I find it is more enjoyable with someone I can share true passion with. Another note to help you stop.... I caught HPV and I didnt get around half as much as you. Just thought I would throw that in there for you to chew on.
2007-02-21 11:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by charityislove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no Alexa - what are hiding from. Are you ready to gain your dignity and pride back! 4 different guys in a week must be hard work - hehe. Restore your self and your body and have fun with 1 guy 4 times a week. Guaranteed to be more fun as you can inject spontaneity, games etc into a relationship. If you feel you must persist with the one night stands remember to ALWAYS USE CONDOMS. Good luck on finding your way back.
2007-02-21 11:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my personal opinion, you should stop. i'm not really the preachy type, but if you don't know these men(or women...idk) you could be at risk for STD's, or getting pregnant. just because you can't SEE anything there, it doesn't mean that there is nothing there. many STD's are not visible to the naked eye. You are also probably lowering your self esteem, thinking that the next time you do it, you will feel better, but you just end up feeling worse. my advice to you is to stop the one night stands and go into counseling. then you can build up your self esteem and then maybe get into a relationship that you can feel good about and that's not just about sex. good luck!
2007-02-21 11:42:24 · answer #6 · answered by shellbee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's not the most safest thing in the world to do but it's your choice. To mean sex is a form of expression that i want to show threw my body even passion and lust can be that. If you think you should stop that is your choice but if you dont think you can maybe just trying to tone the one night stands down abit. Get to know a perosn see where that takes you. You dont wanna be labeled for something your not i hope this helps you take care
2007-02-21 11:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by Dark_Fire_Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on you and how it makes you feel about yourself. Do you feel good about it? Does it make you feel awful? Some women are able to have one night stands and not feel anything. However, if you are doing it to get attention or just to sleep with guys then you'll probably feel bad about it. Not to mention the sterotypical "slutty" phrase from your friends. What about diseases and all the other stuff associated with seX. I'd say stop because you don't want to look back and say how you regretted doing all those guys. Why are you sleeping with so many guys anyways? To be honest...I'd be ashamed to tell people that.
2007-02-21 11:49:07 · answer #8 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u shud. how does it make u feel inside? i guess coz ur asking about it u feel a tad concerned. ppl cud mess u about easily if u carry on and altho u shudnt run your life on what ppl think o f u, u dont want to lose respect from ur friends and guys in general. 4 a week is a lot and it may be fun but if you save yourself for someone you love then it will be more meaningful. just have fun in other ways and then guys wont start to think of u as an object. if u get this reeputation then sum1 cud take advantage of u. take care xxx
2007-02-21 11:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by *Evie* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 one-nighter's per week? With different guys? Yep. That's a bit excessive. Well, ok, more than just "a bit" excessive. Slow your roll and consider taking up a hobby. Or perhaps go to the "toy store" and purchase a Rabbit (the one with the little beads inside) and some lube.
2007-02-21 11:42:31 · answer #10 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mind tells you to stop then you should. one night stands are for the strongest at heart and the very fickle in love. So if you think it is time to throw in the towel and cut down on the risk taking go ahead because fate might just be protecting from something devastating..... good luck in making your choice
2007-02-21 11:50:49 · answer #11 · answered by Alise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋