I'm Daniel. I'm a guy. And I've been going out with my girlfriend for 7 months. I'm 16, and she's 15. We're deeply in love. Everyone knows it. And lately we've gotten quite physical, but somehow managed to turn down sex. She's given my clues that she wants to have sex, but I think she wants to because she doesn't want to lose me. I want to have sex with her more than anything, and will remain with her no matter what. I've promised her my heart forever, and I am not going to let her down. And if we have sex, it is going to be done responsibly, and I'm not going to let it become my main priority in the relationship. I love her. I'm not rushing her into doing anything. I don't want to lose her, either. So what do you think we should do..?
2007-02-21 11:33:04 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm Daniel. I'm a guy. And I've been going out with my girlfriend for 7 months. I'm 16, and she's 15. We're deeply in love. Everyone knows it. And lately we've gotten quite physical, but somehow managed to turn down sex. She's given my clues that she wants to have sex, but I think she wants to because she doesn't want to lose me. I want to have sex with her more than anything, and will remain with her no matter what. I've promised her my heart forever, and I am not going to let her down. And if we have sex, it is going to be done responsibly, and I'm not going to let it become my main priority in the relationship. I love her. I'm not rushing her into doing anything. I don't want to lose her, either. I know the risks, and we've talked about what might happen and have protection. I only want what's best for her, and I want her to be ready. I always do what's best for her, and never let her down. She means everything to me. So what do you think we should do.
2007-02-21 12:11:33 · update #1
I KNOW THE RISKS
and
I also know that I will NEVER leave her
life is too short to think about other girls
I'm not a cheater, I'm honest, she thinks i'm funny, we both find each other nice and kind, we both find each other attractive, we 'click', etc..
just please answer me this..
What should we do..?
2007-02-21 12:31:21 · update #2
you should tell her that you don't need sex to stay with he. that you love her either way. i really think you guys should wait. you haven't even been together for a year. my last relationship i was 14-15, and he was 18-19(we both had our birthdays during our relationship. we dated for 8 months. we both wanted sex, but we didn't because we knew we'd regret it. and he knew i wasn't ready for it yet. and it's a good thing we didn't have sex because we broke up. i'm not saying you guys will break up, but i really thought i was going to marry that guy. i couldn't see any other future. but things change. feelings change. you may love her, but you guys should really wait a lot longer.
2007-02-21 11:43:39 · answer #1 · answered by Krissi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think y'all should wait. At 15 and 16 neither of you are ready to deal with a pregnancy or STD, should that occur...and no matter how careful you are these things sometimes happen.
Sex not occur before:
1. You are ready to deal with a pregnancy, should it occur
2. You are ready to deal with an STD, should it occur
3. When you know how a woman can become pregnant (all the ways it can occur)
4. When you know what the various STDs are and how they are transmitted and how to help protect against them
5. When you are ready to wear a condom (or insist he does if, if female)
6. When you are on a reliable form of birth control and using it properly (female)
7. When you are ready to deal with any emotional issues that may come from being intimate with another person
Until you've got those things covered, you should not have sex
2007-02-21 19:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 16 and she is 15, and you both have only been going out for 7 months. You are both very young, so there is lots of room you both to grow in your relationships.
They are two different levels of sex.
( 1.) Sexual pleasures Without sexual intercourse.
(2.) Sexual pleasure With sexual intercourse.
You can have all the pleasure you want WITHOUT sexual intercourse, and that is ok.
However, If you want to have Sexual Intercourse, you should get married, because with sexual intercourse your two souls become one, and you both could also produce a baby, which will need parents to take of him or her. Also when two people have sexual incourse, the emotional relationship with each other changes forever.
If you have the money to support each other, and one or more children, then wait until she is at least 18, and then get married.
It is better this way. Also, If for some reason you both have sexual intercourse, then you both should get married, even if you both just go down to City Hall and sign the Marriage ceritficates, you can alway have a wedding later with family and friends if you want.
2007-02-21 20:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by BIG D MMA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving someone includes know what is best for them. You are showing love by not having sex and protecting them from dangers of premarital sex, I'm not even gonna list them. Just say that you love her and you'll be with her, with sex or no.
Also, sex is more than a physical thing, it makes an emotional and mental bond between the two people, especially in the girl's case, which makes it that much more painful for the both of you in case the relationship ever ends(I hate to break it to you, but if your just 16, chances are you'll break up eventually). I know you hate to hear it, but the only responsible sex is no sex, no matter what anybody says.
2007-02-21 19:40:19 · answer #4 · answered by Joel V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 months you have no idea if or even how much your in love. you should wait you need to get more on an emotional level with her. There is more to intamicy than just sex. If you couldn't have sex what else would you do with her. Focuse on that and when your ready the questions won't flow in your mind. you wont have to think about it you will just do it. PLEASE don't sex can make or break a relationship. and you are to young to know the difference
2007-02-21 19:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by Charlie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea. Continue to be supportive, loving and kind to her. There is a lot more to love than just sex. Build a relationship minus the sex and you will be building a long lasting one, one that can continue to grew and mature. Save the sexual intimacy part of later. It will be time soon enough.
2007-02-21 19:39:07 · answer #6 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you BOTH want to have sex for the reasons. You should talk to her about it if you think she wants to do it because she is scared to lose you then you shouldnt and should talk to her about her inscurities. If you both want to do it out of love then yes, but you can talk about it first. That way you both are on the same level and understanding it.
2007-02-21 19:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should ask her if she is ready. and 15 and 16? no you seem to young wait until you are 17 and she is 16. that is good. and before you do take her to a romantic dinner and talk to her give her flowers. where a nice suit and a pin. i be romantic to her always.
2007-02-21 19:40:15 · answer #8 · answered by katie11996 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DON'T DON'T DO IT! Save that kind of thing for marrige. You guys are too young, and what if she has an STD that she never told you about and then you could get it. It's just not a good idea. and if, God forbid, you guys do break up, you are going to regret it so bad. just, don't do it.
2007-02-22 18:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by princess_cnr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't have sex, you're only 16, if something happens, it will ruin your life. Seriously. I know some people.
P.S. 7 months is not that long...
2007-02-21 19:36:12 · answer #10 · answered by lostrox77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋