Hi and thank you for reading this. I am 13yrs old and have total trouble getting along with her i mean its her way man or no way. Anytime you ask her something she yells and screams. Then tonight i asked to be in a drama play and my friend can pick me up and i called my friend and she said i went against what she said and all this crap so now after she let me try out and i get a part i have to quit. This is very annoying. I have 2 other brothers and then me and thats all. I mean my dad tries and talks to her and she yells she doesn't talk. I really don't wanna be one of those girls no offense who get mad at their moms and go off and do drugs and get pregnate or i just don't want a bad relationship with my mom. I really love her but not all the time. It gets so bad i just feel like a i wanna die. SOMEONE HELP please!
2007-02-21 11:23:16 · 5 answers · asked by vaderslittlegirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have tried writing notes sitting down to talk to her and its just not working I just wanna die. I do not like the response on screw my mom i lstill luv her
2007-02-21 11:32:42 · update #1
It sounds like your mom is totally stressed out and is at the end of her rope. Deep inside she really knows you and your brothers and dad love her but she isnt able to handle her life right now so she takes it out on you unfortunately. Your mom is to the point where she needs professional help, but the problem lies in getting her to accept it and get it. Your dad is probably the only one who will be able to do that. Sometimes it hard to understand adults and all the pressure they face everyday somewhat like the pressure you have at school and with friends but on a larger scale. Your mom just needs to get everything in perspective and learn not to sweat the small stuff but only a trained professional will be able to do that as sometimes they have to use medications to help regain control. Talk to your dad and see what he advises. The best thing you can do is to continue showing her how much you guys love her and know that this is only a temporary condition and that things will get better. This may take a little time so please be patient with her. Also her condition is in now way due to you guys. Good luck
2007-02-21 11:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound more mature than your Mom does. At least your Dad is trying to get through to her. She sounds as if she feels she has to control everything and everybody. Just attempting to control everything, which is impossible, will stress you out. I know you need advice, but it's really your Mom that needs it more. If it could be possible, I'd have everyone quit talking to her if all she can is yell and scream. Then when she suddenly notices no one is listening and she says something, have people respond... "when you can talk in a civilized manner, I will talk to you...but I refuse to stand here and be screamed at." Maybe counseling would give you more better ideas on how to deal with your mom and your frustrations. It would be even better if your Mom went to counseling and channeled her control issues and anger in a positive way. She is only hurting everyone by the way she is behaving. By the way, you should have been able to do the play...I'd get consent from your Dad, seeing you have transportation, and you went through all of the try outs. It isn't fair to make you quit. You sound very reasonable, and I'm glad that you are not considering drugs or boys to escape. Maybe you could print out your question and all the answers and leave them for your Mom to read them. I wish the best for you and your family....
2007-02-21 11:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to talk to her. I am sure that it is hard to talk to her if she just yells at you! Maybe write her a note explaining everything just like you did in you question. There maybe something else going on that she is having trouble dealing with and she needs you to tell her that you love her! Even adults need to hear that and need to know that they are loved! Give her a hug, tell her you love her, and tell her you want an awesome relationship with her! Good luck! I hope it works out!!!!
2007-02-21 11:31:16 · answer #3 · answered by princess45cassie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl going thew the same thing
they just expect so much from the girls and not from the boys
sit down and talk to her
(hopfull it will work out didnt with me)
but i found out it was because my mom wants me to be something and someone
unlike her she is nothing
she didnt finish high school
so she wants the best for me
and yes it is a seriouse pain
2007-02-21 11:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by urluvmakesmeweak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
f****** screw ur mom!!!
2007-02-21 11:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋