Help! Does any one know of any programs that give legal advise to Women who are in a horrible relationship?

Question

I have 4 children and have been with the same man on and off for 11 years! I am 28 and just (and finally) learned my leason. He calls me every name in the book and then wants me to jump into his bed! I would rather sleep with a hungry alligator! He is completely he tries to hurt me emtionally constantly. Using my mother and fathers death against me, my lack of family against me, and now since he has basically refused to get a "real" job (I had to get him one through the company I work at) faults me for not doing as much around the house. I tell him if I did that what would you have to do but live up under me. Now he goes on Myspace 75% of the day instead of focusing on our 1 year old he stays home with. Which infuriates me to end! Because what I would not give to be able to stay at home and be with my babies, and he is home ignoring them.. I want him out but honestly since I lack any support at what so ever, I have almost become complacent to the fact that I have to deal with this.

Answer 1

Please do NOT become complacent to your situation.

What you are facing is far more common than most people think. Many, many women, and even a significant number of men, face the unfortunate situation of an emotionally and/or physically abusive mate.

The good news is, there is help. There is a way to get out.

Family is normally the first place you can go. Since your parents are no longer with you, this makes it a little more challenging for you but maybe you can get assistance from a sibling or an aunt.

If family is out of the question, there is always the legal route. Women have almost complete favor within the courts. You can probably get a no-contact order and force him to move out for a little while. This can be a little dangerous if he's physically abusive or has a bad temper, because he'll be very upset and will definitely know where you are.

If that option is unappealing to you, you might be able to ask a friend or coworker for some help. Even if it means going to a hotel for a couple days.

As far as women's help networks... there are tons of them. Many of them are localized though, so you'll need to do a search for Women's Help Network or Women's Support Network along with your city. When you find one, call them up and speak with someone who can offer you more advice.

I'm sorry you have to go through this. I hope you can stay strong for yourself and for your kids. Best wishes.

Answer 2

You call your local {social service} office they can and will help you.