I grew up with my best friend and we have been best friends forever, but im also really good friends with her boyfriend. He always comes to me for advice and we talk about everything. She gets annoyed with him really easiliy and is usually a *****. I went to visit him at his college one weekend and ending up having sex with him in the shower. At the time they weren't "dating" but talking I guess. We were both wasted and it didn't mean anything, i think. But my bestfriend found out about it and I lied to her. Then I finally told her the truth and she hates me. She won't talk to me. I know it was awful to do but i never meant to her hurt her it was just something that happened surprisingly. What do I do now?!? How can i make it up to her?
2007-02-21 10:58:18 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her "it was an awful thing to do but it happened surprisingly" and that you never went there to sleep with him, you went there to talk to him and one thing led to another. Tell her that you didn't tell her at first because you were so afraid of hurting her, but you couldn't keep in a lie any longer, and ended up hurting her anyway. Remind her of all the good times you had together and swear to her that you thought, for all intent and purpose, that they weren't even on speaking terms at the time, so you didn't know they'd get back together. And remind her that he was involved just as much as you...
2007-02-21 11:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by Just another opinion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's hard..I don't think she will want to be your friend anymore after what happened. Eventhough you were wasted that is no eXcuse for your actions. You should of known better to stay away from him because they were "dating." If you were truly her friend you would of not gone there to hang out with her man. Lying about it instead of coming clean probably made the situation even worse because now she thinks that you are a cheater and a liar. It's best to move on from this relationship and never do it again to anyone else. I think it would take a lot for anyone to forgive what you did. Imagine if you were in her shoes. Would you forgive and forget? The only thing you can do is learn from this mistake and stop getting wasted. You make poor decisions when you are intoXicated..things that are unforgivable. I got drunk when I was younger, but never to a point where I did not take responsibility for my actions! Do yourself a favor and be glad that she doesn't kick your ***! LOL I'm only teasing...move on and make better decisions in the future!
2007-02-21 11:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First is wasnt a accident you intenionally blocked her out. You werent laying down on the ground naked with your loegs open and then he was walking past naked n slipped n fell in you. Liquor is not to blame. YOu did it live up to it. If they werent bf n gf at the time who told her. That means the bf prob set u up, because if he was your friend he wouldnt have told. YOu get so many chances to stop from having sex with him and you didnt. Seems childish anyways why you guys just couldnt keep your mouth shut why you gottat tell people all your business. YOu did the crime so do the time. You dont really need to be her friend anyway because she may forgive u but will never forget and it will always be n the back of her head to watch you she cant let her guard down around you. And your going to get tired of getting accused of doing stuff when you havent trust me just move on tell her your sorry it shouldnt have happened not sorry it just happened cause it can happen again. I say either learn how to keep your legs closed, or your mouth closed(talkin), or learn to be by yourself because you wont be able to keep a friend keep screwing their men.
2007-02-21 11:11:47 · answer #3 · answered by FauxDr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your relationship with her is over and you'll just have to accept that. If one of my friends had sex with my bf, even if we weren't together at the time, I can assure you I'd never be friends with her again. The fact that you were drunk and it didn't mean anything isn't a good excuse, there just is no good excuse for your behavior. Just give her a sincere apology and realize that she may never be your friend again and think of it as a lesson learned the hard way.
2007-02-21 11:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cant make it up to her over something like that! That was a really stupid spurt-of-the-moment thing to do, and you should have thought about this before you went and did it with your (apparently) best friend that you've grown up with. Now you're just going to have to face the consequences. If she's such a great friend maybe she wont murder you! Good luck!
2007-02-21 11:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by 17*mezzo*17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you surprisingly end up screwing in the shower, you blew it, even if she ever forgives you, your friendship will never be the same, and good friends are so hard to come by. Hope one of you wasn't so wasted that you forgot your raincoat!!!
2007-02-21 11:04:56 · answer #6 · answered by kmv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okayyy...........um...........i dont know what to say.......ok dont try and fix it because its ruined, everything you say will be sh.it. because when you say it meant nothing, we were drunk, and i still want to be your friend, that is saying you ended a long time friendship for nothing, it had no meaning it was just a mistake and that isnt so good.........and to be honest with you i cant keep this to myself, because frankly i dont know you but i hate women that do things like what you did. is bad, makes women look bad, makes women look like slúts, bitc;hes, and w'hores. are you that?? i think you are because of what you did. this is also what your friend thinks about you. and also think about this, if you become friends again, she will never trust you with her boyfriend or trust you at all period. so dont waist your breath. if you DO something and you end up friends again it means you are lucky and she is stupid and a masoquist. she likes to be hurt. these things are never forgoten and hunts you for the rest your life making you caprichious and untrusting of others......i bet your friend thinks that thanks to you she will never trust noone again. so i wish you good luck you "modern day woman".
ps. find out what that means and if you know then no worries.
2007-02-21 11:13:43 · answer #7 · answered by MAX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I went to visit him at his college one weekend and ending up having sex with him in the shower"
"it was just something that happened surprisingly"
"We were both wasted and it didn't mean anything, i think"
The first statement is probably true.
2007-02-21 11:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you learned a lesson. And you really need to have a mature convorsation with your friend. And pour out your feelings on how sorry you are to her. Don't be suprised if she doesn't forgive you right away. It takes time. What you did was wrong.
2007-02-21 11:04:32 · answer #9 · answered by Liyanne 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you, what if it were the other way around. What if you were in her shoes and she was in yours. And you found out that she, in the very same situation, did the same thing to you and with your boyfriend.
The very thought of you acting any different than she is rediculas and laughable.
Heres a free tip.....next time, keep your pants on.
2007-02-21 11:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by Count DiMera 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋