She is 19 and I am 39. We have a lot in common and I personally treat her as I would any other woman, with absolute respect and dignity. We share the same spiritual beliefs, have a very deep emotional bond, and we lean on each other for support. I am at complete peace when I am with her. To me age is a number, a measure of time. Maturity to me is the key, I have dated women who were in their late 20's and mid 30's, but did not hold the confidence nor the emotional fortitude my fiancee possesses. I really could not see myself with any other woman, no matter what age they were. If she was the same age as I, I would still be crazy for her.
2007-02-21 10:34:45 · 15 answers · asked by joe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your age doesn't matter, the age difference doesn't matter, the problem here is her age. You may love each other, have lots in common (hard to see, but ok) but what you have to remember, and I shouldn't have to tell an adult this....but the person she is now isn't the person she is going to be at 25, 35 and so on.
She's going to continue to grow and mature...and if you say she's mature now, she's going to only outgrow you in time.
I would, in this case, recommend a very long engagement, or a pre-nup....because I don't see how this will last. I would say the same to you if you were 20 and looking to marry a 19 y/o.
I am against people that young getting married. I was that young, and as I grew and matured, my marriage did not.
I am now remarried to a man 29 years my senior, by the way, so I can also testify that age difference, between two adults, doesn't matter.....
Trust me.....she will grow to be one of those women who in their 20's or 30's you have no interest in....
2007-02-21 10:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only problem is.....THERE WILL BE PROBLEMS. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow....but there will be problems....and unless isolation is involved, then there will be problems. Also it's very important where you live. As an example....I'm not gay but I find it amazing that all gay men don't live in West Hollywood. A gay guy living in Des Monies Iowa has to feel out of place. It's kind of the same for a young girl hanging with an older guy...and when one is 25 and the other is 45 it's not a big deal but then when it becomes 35 and 55......and 45 and 65 BUT THEN IF YOU MAKE IT TO 75 AND 95....WHO GIVES A FLYING ..... if you feel love....then age shouldn't matter......and it might not matter today....but it will matter......and of course the other issue is money....tons of money seems to help. Which obviously might have been my problem when I lost my younger girlfriend..... From experience I repeat.....there will be problems.
2016-05-24 04:31:53 · answer #2 · answered by Daniela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope it works out for you two. I was married to a man 20 years older than me when I was 17, he was 37. I left him when I was 24, not because he was totally bad, but because I completely changed. We could never have any friends in common. He did lie to me and told me he would have children with me, but after 7 years he said he didn't ever want children, which was the straw that broke the camels back.
This was my own personal experience and in no way makes it like your relationship, but young people change no matter how mature they seem. Now I am married to a man 13 years younger than me and my past experience weighs heavily on me that he will change after time too. I guess life is always a gamble. Good luck you two.
2007-02-21 10:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what do you have in common..you love one another?You breathe and eat.???Honestly, this is your business..but I think that many years could cause alot of problems.I think once a women reaches about 25 she is fairly mature..I am sure she is nice, I believe she is....but this is a huge age difference at this point..I am sure you are flattered to have a young chic..but most likely she will regret this decision later on in life...and since she hasn't experienced much "adult life" I would think hard about this.At this time it is good but what about 6-10 years from now....If she was like 24 and you were 39 it wouldn't be so bad..but be careful.
2007-02-21 10:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by AlphaFeGreatWhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dig her that's what matters. You're old enough to be her father so one would think maturity levels, life experience, and things in common would tend to not be very high.
Age matters to me, but that's my preference. I can't imagine a teen and a middle-aged person having matching maturity levels...perhaps what she is lacking, you are willing to accept or overlook.
If it works for you then enjoy...you are both legal adults and it's got as much chance as any other relationship nowadays.
2007-02-21 10:40:34 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it does matter. I can't imagine that you would have that much in common with a 19-year-old. Either you want to control her, or she wants a sugar-daddy or father- figure. But, I'm sure the answers here won't change your mind, so good luck, and peace to you.
2007-02-21 10:44:24 · answer #6 · answered by Susan H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't work. I was with a man 12 years who was 19 years older than I was. Trust me! Find a woman your own age! Don't ruin her life!
2007-02-21 10:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by sgawell 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the age doesn't bother you or your fiancee, then it doesn't matter. If you're only asking because other people care, then just say f*** them!
2007-02-21 10:38:26 · answer #8 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age should not matter so go for it as long as you make each other happy.
2007-02-21 10:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age does not matter as long as you are both of age.
You should not be second guessing your relationship.
If you have a good relationship then be happy you have it.
2007-02-21 10:46:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋