She asked how he was doing & if he had a girlfriend..His response "I am okay, I have never been happier. I don't have a girlfriend.. but I have a wife (he wants to marry me).. I love her and she means everything in the world to me and no other girl has ever made me happier.. she is my lil' heart" (that's his nickname for me)
I guess I am just worried because this ex girlfriend is someone who my boyfriend left me for in the beginning of our relationship. We dated shortly & he realized he still had feelings for her. I told him at that point he needed to figure it out before we took our relationship any further. I wouldn't want to be with someone who was not over someone else or unsure of us. That was 2 years ago and 6 months ago he contacted me & told me he made a big mistake & he wanted to get back together with me. We are very happy. Should I worry? He came to me and told me about the email. He tells me I am the one for him. I still feel insecure though.. Am I worrying for nothing?
2007-02-21 10:32:42 · 11 answers · asked by I carry your heart with me... 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow. I'm so jealous. hehe.
I don't think you have anything to worry about. I would worry if he a) didn't tell you about the email b) didn't tell her he was happy in a wonderful relationship or c) Didn't already decided he loves you and came back to you.
But all those things are things that mean you should be very secure in your relationship.
You have a very loyal and loving boyfriend there. Don't let his ex make you feel insecure.
2007-02-21 10:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are being worried for no reason other than they may still be friends and she may truely be concerned for her friend. My ex and I broke up in 2005, and we didn't talk for 6 months after, We finally started talking again as friends and to this day we remain friends, I ask about his future wife and he in turn asks about my my current boyfriend. I see nothing wrong with it and no reason to worry, especially if he came to you first rather than let you find out on your own, sounds to me like he's a good man. Stop worrying, and enjoy the time you have together, if he goes back to the behaviors he had when he left you before, then I would take issue, but honey, trust is not something to question, when you do, then you have nothing. Good luck!!!!!!
2007-02-21 18:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by bitemetazzgrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he took the time he needed to sort his feelings out. After a year and a half he came to you not knowing what you would say or how you would feel. You gotta give him some credit for that. That took a lot of guts. You should feel good about his response to her. It sounds like he is in love with you, and you said yourself you are very happy. He can't make his ex stop trying to contact him, so don't get mad at him for that. As long as he is giving her answers like that you should be dancing on the roof. Relax and have fun, love is grand.
2007-02-21 18:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by Big_Dog_Spike 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the fact that he's the one that told you about the email makes it seem that he only wants to comfort and assure you that nothing will happen. He knew where she was going with her questions and stopped her in her tracks. It could be that you are worrying for nothing but still keep an eye on things.
2007-02-21 18:40:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well , if u are happy together then stop worrying but if u still feeling insecure dont think of the marriage thing atleast for now ...what i think is that the guy loves u and wanted to prove to u that you are the onlyone for him and that the reason of ur first breakup is not anymore present
i think u have a sweet man :)
Good Luck :D
2007-02-21 19:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would trust him. He's left her twice now, and he told you about the e-mail. If it's bothering you, just tell him how you're feeling. If he doesn't get all defensive about it, then you absolutely have nothing to worry about. I have the same issues about exes with my fiance. It's hard for me to know that they might still have feelings for him, but everytime I bring it up, he assures me I'm the one for him. He never gets angry or defensive about it. He listens to me, and then responds with nothing but compliments!
2007-02-21 18:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no..your not...but there will always be insecurities when it comes to significant others and there ex's. me and my fiance have been dating for two years and an ex of mine that i haven't seen for four years messaged me on myspace and my fiance got a little ancy..its a natural thing..you just have to know how to understand the difference between a little worry and your heart telling you that this isnt right
2007-02-21 18:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by Naib Link 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are worrying for nothing...you would have to worry if he had hidden the whole email incident away from you and not said anything...you guys are going to be fine...dont worry
2007-02-21 18:37:40 · answer #8 · answered by angelbaby8087 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i believe so. i don't think you have anything to worry about. he seems like he loves you too much. he basically & he even told you about her e-mail. relax & enjoy your happy days with the man that loves you back.
2007-02-21 18:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by serendipity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you worried? hes completely over her as you can tell by the email. hes in love with you.
2007-02-21 18:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋