I am 14 and very shy. I feel that I will never get a boyfriend or get married because I will be shy around him. Whenever I am around boys I get very shy and I can't be myself around them...is that normal? I have never had a boyfriend before and all of my friends had boyfriends in like 3rd grade. Will I ever get a boyfriend and be comfortable around him? I have never even been kissed....now how weird is that?
2007-02-21 10:14:13 · 36 answers · asked by ~ ♥ ~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh gosh dont worry--i have that same problem!! im 14, never been kissed, or had a BF!! i used to be shy around guys (i still can at times!) but i eventually loosend up!! guys are really nice and fun...they can be pretty wierd loud and rowdy but thats the fun of it! just ask a friend (girl) to just start hanging around guys--not randomly but like just saying hi and stuff!! but DONT WORRY!! i have that same feeling about never getting kissed, having a BF, etc..but somday that day WILL come, and he'll be the sweetest guy uve ever met :)
2007-02-21 10:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first off. 3rd grade? What did you know in 3rd grade? About love, about life, about anything? I think that at that time, it was just a trend or a 'just because I seen her doing it' type thing. I mean, 3rd grade, people were writing two names on their folders and drawing lil hearts around them. Come on. But anyway, you are still SO young. It's NOT, definitely NOT, weird for you to not have experienced having a boyfriend or having engaged in anything like that at all. Obviously the shyness is a sign, that you are not ready to step up and actually be with a boy. But don't worry too much on NEVER getting a boyfriend, you have your WHOLE life ahead of you. And why are you thinking about marriage NOW? It's too early to tell all that. I am just now graduating highschool and I know that there is a whole life ahead of me. Actually, it's quite overwhelming to the max. Don't worry yourself too much. When the time is right, you will know how to keep your cool and be yourself because it will come to you. Right now, worry about other things. Keep your priorities straight. Take it from someone who knows from experience.
2007-02-21 10:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by bL@(kR0s3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 and never been kissed? Well your not to old, so it's okay. Hehe. First of all I am very very very shy too! I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. Took me a few years to get really... really... comfortable with him. It just takes time. I just have to get used to a person. I'm not as shy as I was, but still am to some people... but once I get to know them, pressure is off. Just give it time. Shy-ness starts to wear off little by little.
2007-02-21 10:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The prettiest rose in the garden is the last to bloom.... It blooms in Gods time and is so special is has a time just for it.... sounds corny but is VERY true....... I was that rose, and I am here to tell you PLEASE do NOT worry, your time will get here soon enough..... You will be ready when the time comes and that special boy/guy comes into your life..... He will be so right that you will not have to worry about all the petty stuff like all the other girls around you are doing now... and think of it this way too, waiting for the RIGHT guy means that you STILL have it all to look forward to and you will be feeling new and fresh when everyone else around you will be jaded and faded on love....... God bless
2007-02-21 10:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you relate exactly like me im 14 and very shy too. i have had several boyfriends before but thay have all been older then me and more mature.. if both of the people in the relationship are shy then the relationship doesnt go anywhere.. but if they are a couple years older then you they make the first move and then you will do it sooner or later.. ive never kissed a guy beofre either even though ive had a lot of boyfriends but you will sooner or later.. trust me.. hope that helps! :)
2007-02-21 10:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by snickelfritz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear you are 14,and its not the end of the world. Your not the only person without a boyfriend,and there is no rush in dating,or even for that matter thinking about marriage. Tackle things as they come,if you worry to much about it,you'll turn out waiting to be perfect for that situation,when in all reality,nothing is ever going to last forever,nor do first boyfriends. the great thing about life is,you learn from every experience. It's normal and it is a thing we grow out of once we become confident in our self image,work on your's and everything will be in the right place..
2007-02-21 10:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youa re way too young to have a boyfriend and your girlfriends didn't have boyfriends in the third grade, they had cookies that the boys wanted.
Be shy, that is an attractive quality and only the most determined of guys will take you on.
Do your homework, guys will appear later.
2007-02-21 10:22:50 · answer #7 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! you will get ovr the shyness. I was extreamly shy as well at your age. When you become more sure of yourself and clear about what you want in life your confidence will increase and the shyness will subside. Also....being shy is a sign of a very sensitive and aware person...so it is actually a great thing even though it may not seem that way right now.
2007-02-21 10:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by Blue EyEs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um first of all WHo would want a boyfriend when they are in 3rd grade obviously they weren't real relationships Dont rush it and dont wrry about beguing shy some guys do like that i do get nervous around guy but just talk to them they aren't like aliens and im 14 as well had a boyfriend but no kiss cuz we just didnt click
2007-02-21 10:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by Hypercutie_2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are too young to have a boyfriend second when you get older and you meet the right person you will not be shy around him
2007-02-21 10:17:32 · answer #10 · answered by butterflybaby 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋