Hello guys back to my last question I'm in love with a married guy I have just discovered that he lied all along and that you guys were right he has made up the story that his son was seriously and critically injured and had to be rushed to hospital and that he had broken his wrist it turns out he is still playing around about and has clearly lied to me about everything guys what do I do the fact is this guy used his youngest child as a n excuse and made the whole thing up which in my opinion is sick guys please tell me what to do iam still in emotional pain i endlessly check my texts my e.mails .
On my birthday I spent loads of money on under wear clothes a new hair straightener and I have even considered having plastic surgery now and I'm trying to raise the finance if I can. Guys iam in real bits over all of this please help me .
By the way thank you for your help support and advice on my last previous question it really helped and you were right.
2007-02-21 10:10:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, my God! How can you possibly be surprised that someone who would lie and cheat on his wife would lie to you? You must be feeling so betrayed but this has been happening since time began and will continue forever. Just make sure it never happens to you again, Sweetie. My dear sister-in-law carried on with a married man until she got him and that's when her problems really started. I really believe the only reason he even got a divorce is because his wife found out and kicked his usless butt out. Most cheaters really like having their cake and eating it, too. You know, you and his wife really have a tremendous amount in common and you should sit down and talk. Not with a plan to hurt her, she will divorce him and you can have him but because you are part of a sisterhood who must support one another. She's going to be furious with you for about ten seconds and then tell you about the other affairs he has had. Yea, we know he has told you what a ***** she is, they are not having sex and he is only staying for the kids. That's the most common routine but ask yourself this? If he's such a great guy, why isn't she dragging him off to bed every day? Well, because he is so self centered he never gives to her, only takes. Could she be a ***** because he is never home and has no interest in her or the kids? I sure hope you are using protection with this loser so you aren't left with another kid he can neglect. My sister-in-law used to tell us her boyfriend couldn't attend holiday dinners because he had to work. I would just look at her and shake my head and she would have to look away with a very red face. My darling sister-in-law died shortly after they married of a quick moving leukemia and now all he talks about is how much he loved her and how many women are knocking down his door to get at his body-right after he offers it to me. He is such a joke. Yes, very good looking, very good talker and a very sad excuse for a man. I don't know you from Pete but I know you don't deserve to be drug through the mud with him. You are a better person than that. I've lived long enough to see this happen to more than one and most of the time, unless the wife bails out he stays right where he is and being a serial cheater, starts looking for another victim. He really is not mature enough to stay with any relationship, especially a healthy one. He just needs another woman to prop up his poor self esteem again and again. What is there for you to love about someone like that? Kick that trash to the curb!
2007-02-21 10:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by moonrose777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop mess'n with the married guys, and don't believe every story you hear coming out of his mouth. Until you've actually seen what he's said don't buy into it. Did he actually make eye contact with you when he told this to you? Cut him loose; remember you're not married....and the game he's playing will eventually catch up to him. You do you for a while, and you'll find that you'll be better off. Pick yourself up and be the woman you were groomed to be. Crying won't cure the problem, but sex with someone else will.
Stay sucka free and keep it pimp'n
2007-02-21 10:47:07 · answer #2 · answered by 00silky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop feeling sorry for yourself! You're a great looking lady. You made a mistake in judgment. We ladies do that. we're human. but you deserve a good man. You can't get one feeling down on yourself. Just remember not to be too quick to put out with men-make them wait for sex. If they stray away from you cause you won't put out as soon as they think you should, then they are jerks anyway. Learn that you are the prize, not these lowlife liars. Some men, one man is your guy, but you can't get him being caught up with lying old cheating dogs like this guy lying about his son. If he can lie about his own kids to get SEX, then YOU KNOW he is not even worth you shedding one tear or growing gray hairs over-he is a loser! He don't deserve a single thought of well being from you, not now not ever! He's mistreating his wife, and mistreated you too. One day he will mess around with a lady that will be his demise and he will learn not to play with women like that. In the meantime-date you at least 3 nice men-and stop worrying about this loser. Stop giving him power by letting him make you angry about what he did to you. Forgive yourself, hon.
2007-02-21 10:23:14 · answer #3 · answered by marquella_la_nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can suggest is that you realy take a long hard look in the mirror.... Realy get to know the YOU in there.... Who she is.. What she is...... Where she wants to go...... Who she wants to be...... etc....... Take the time for YOU......... Forget all about guys for a while, put them on the back burner for now...... Focus on getting your life in order and on track.... We have all been down the pain road and we have all recovered from it and found a new path that is just right for us.... It might be that a complete change is in order...... moving to a new town, buying a different wardrobe, a new job or carrer, etc........ Put the focus on YOU and find the REAL and BEAUTIFUL woman who is YOU !!!!!! God bless
2007-02-21 10:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all make mistakes babe, especially if we get lied to by a complete waste of space,all we can do is learn from them.
this guy does not deserve a female companion, or his kids.
believe me (i am male) this guy is the one with the real problem here and sticking around him will only bring you down.
find a real man that you can see a future with
2007-02-21 10:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by safcian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to change yourself over a man. Have more confidence in yourself than that. I understand getting new underwear and a new flat iron, but honey, black people don't GET plastic surgery. Love yourself hon, let that drama go, and do you. Save your money up for more useful things.
2007-02-21 10:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
MOVE ON. HE'S MARRIED. Sorry if your emotionally attached to him, that's what happens when you sleep with someone you know nothing about. It maybe hard but don't settle for crap your probably worth more than that.
2007-02-21 10:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. J J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is sick, get yourself some self respect hun and forget him, you're so worth it x
2007-02-21 10:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be shocking that he lies... he's a married man cheating on his wife(which he'll never leave) Don't you think you deserve a man that you don't have to share?
2007-02-21 10:25:55 · answer #9 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him, do not even talk or respond to him. a cheater and liar will continue to do the same, and if you are religious you should remember you are commiting adultry by being with him and even if you are not religious it is still legally and morally wrong.
2007-02-21 10:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by randini692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋