My boyfriend and I were friends for two years before I told him I liked him and he asked me out. We were together for a month and then he broke up w/ me b/c of long-distance complications. The thing is, while we were together, my friend told me he was all bragging about how he had a gf and stuff. Well Three weeks later he said he missed me and asked me out again. I said yes that is how much I like him. The thing is now all my friends think he's a jerk and scold me for getting back together with him.
Another thing is, he is really hot, but my three best friends have only seen him w/ make up on b/c he is in drama and he had to wear make up for a play he was in. So they think he is ugly but in reality he is not he is really really hot. So I'll say "he's so hot" and they'll be like "he's a jerk and he is super ugly!" What should I do to make them stop dissing my bf!?! He really is a great guy. They shouldn't judge him like that b/c they don't know him like I do! What should i do?
2007-02-21 10:10:33 · 26 answers · asked by horsesareforever 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think your friends are jealous of your new boyfriend because you found someone else that can make you happy. so i say just give then some time to adjust. Make some time for your friends and your boyfriend to hang out so they can get along and see how great you and your bf really are.
2007-02-21 11:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by n1cyndy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if they r any kind of friend they would respect your wishes and not do that .At least not around u cuz they would most likely talk about him just not in your face which is a start.I would just ask your friends to not speak bad of him for u have feelings for him.you also want to remain friends with them.Just compromise and come to the agreement that u nor them speak of him when together to make it easier.If they don't then they r not your friends cuz friends respect each other.Bye 4 now n hope it all works out 4 u.
2007-02-21 18:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what others think. Do you like him? Does he like you? If the answer is yes to both of these questions, then stick with him.
But do keep an eye out... maybe your friends are jealous... or maybe they're on to something. They could be having you on as well. Just make sure your friends and your bf aren't being jerks.
2007-02-21 18:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by Nova 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are positive they're wrong aboout him, then just tell them flat out, enough already. Tell them that you appreciate their concern, but you really don't care what they think about him and it's time for them to back off, and that you're not going to listen to them talk crap about him any longer. If they try to start up again, just say, sorry, I'm not listening to this, and walk away.
They'll still talk sh*t about him behind your back, but if you can get them to stop doing it right in front of you, I'd call it a win. You'll never convince them he's anything but whatever they've decided he is, and frankly it's not your job to do so.
2007-02-21 18:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jadalina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friends are jealous. I guess if they're not mature enough, you should just steer the conversation away from him. True friends will want your happiness. Plus, to say he's ugly is extremely shallow. If he were cheating on you or lying then I could see your friends' concern, but you did not indicate that he was so I'd say it's just a case of immature jealously on their parts.
2007-02-21 18:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by pookiemct07 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't like a guy just cos he's "hot". sometimes friends are right cos they can see things that you probably cant. on the other hand, they could be wrong cos they don't know him the way you do. if hes a really great guy, keep going. your friends will eventually accept you'll being together.
2007-02-21 18:17:26 · answer #6 · answered by serendipity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let them meet him again, with out the make-up let them talk and then see what they say. If you like him stay with him and if they have only seen him once how do they already know hes a jerk
2007-02-21 18:15:53 · answer #7 · answered by Shenic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know what he really means to you. But it never hurts to hear other opinions. However, it sounds like you don't want to hear their opinions because they are not based on personality which counts more than looks. Why not just ignoring them. Perhaps by remaining quiet when they talk poorly about him. Either that just tell them that their words are hurtful and while you appreciate their concern, you'd rather not hear people talk poorly about him.
2007-02-21 18:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mixing your friends with your boyfriend is never advisable.
Let's say you FINALLY convince them that he's hot. What then? Will one or more of them chase him?
It's pointless to try to convince them at all. You don't need to have their approval/envy in order to think highly of him, do you?
Forget the friends. Ask your parents if they like him.
2007-02-21 18:14:59 · answer #9 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick up for your bf!!! If they're really your friends they should respect your feeling for him and not say those things!!! They should also respect your judgement, because I'm sure you wouldn't go out with a freak or anything!
2007-02-21 18:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by Florida's Sunshine =] 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋