My wife and I enjoy it but she tells me that if she keeps hearing my fantasy, that she may act out on it one night if tipsy. My fantasy is to catch her in our hotel room with her young lover while on vacation. She tells me that I have imbedded that in her head so much with fantasy that it could happen. Do you think she is setting me up to cheat and blame my fantasy? Or is she being honest and that fantasies can effect a woman's head so much that she would think it's ok and a green light goes off if a handsome man flirts with her. What do you think it is and should I halt my fantasy roleplay?
2007-02-21 10:10:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry but it is the only fantasy the excites me. In my fantasy, she is getting it with her young bull lover and what excites me is when she gets into the fantasy and tells me everything she did and is doing. So no, I don't have any other fantasy that arouses me like this one.
2007-02-21 10:17:10 · update #1
Anna, it does excite me in the fantasy. I told her that fantasy is not real, we all have them. I just don't want her sneaking around.
2007-02-21 10:19:05 · update #2
So, some of you women are saying that it can effect women huh? Everything I read when we started 5 years ago was that fantasy roleplay was healthy and harmless. Now you all are saying that maybe it's not....now I'm confused. LOL
2007-02-21 10:21:47 · update #3
Change...surely you have more than one fantasy. Don't re-play the same role each time
2007-02-21 10:14:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with fantasy and roleplaying. I personally enjoy it, and think it gives alittle spice to a relationship.
However, there has to be a line drawn somewhere. Some fantasies as erotic as they might be are not healthy for a relationship, or the people involved. You have to temper what fantasy you have and how to act it out so that nobody is negatively effected by it.
I think you should probably be alittle more careful about how often you mention a particular fantasy. When someone mentions something alot it does kind of take root in our minds, and we, especially women, start "what-if'ing". If you don't want heartache you should try and steer away from fantasies that include infidelity.
Just my opinion. Good Luck.
2007-02-21 18:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by Kurius_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some fantasies are better off as just that, fantasies. Just remember the old saying. Be careful what you ask for, you just might get it.
2007-02-21 18:18:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, why would you want to find her with somebody else.. and younger? (unless it's with a girl)
but yeah, it may start to seem normal if you role-play it too much. What I don't get is how it upsets you if you want it to happen. Maybe she thinks you'd actually like it (as one woul infer from a fantasy) and just wants to make you horny by saying that
2007-02-21 18:17:35 · answer #4 · answered by anna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋