Here is the situation: I am currently "talkin" to this guy that I have known for 11 years and been friends with for about 5. He has always had a crush on me, but I never looked at him that way until recently. Now we have been talkin for a couple months and it is awesome. I am so attracted to him and he is such a good kisser, and we have made very clear how we feel about each other...how attracted we are to each other...how we miss each other when we aren't together etc. BUT...for some reason...we haven't had sex. I know we both want to, but when it comes down to it, neither of us will make the move. Is it better for us to just wait and it will begin to feel natural? What can we do to ease the transition and minimize the pressure? Any ideas why a guy would not want to have sex with someone he cares about and is extremely attracted to supposedly? (I have never heard of that)...lol
2007-02-21 09:52:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should wait. Obviously neither one of you are ready, and if you have sex now, you will probably regret it.
2007-02-21 09:57:47 · answer #1 · answered by RidiculousTallness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy has been hurt before it will be hard for him to open up to you. Make sure he knows you are sincere. I left my hometown years ago and was diagnosed with a rare genetic disease and ultimately moved back. I made considerable money during my time away and I am now getting offers from women I never trusted before and never will.
If I was not a good catch then why now? Maybe I am wrong but I need to trust someone before I will ever commit to someone. If you are actually in love with the guy ASK him why he is balking.
2007-02-21 10:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by halfshy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sex shouldn't be rushed anyway. If no one is making a move then it obviously means that both are either too shy or not ready. As long as you know the situation, that you'll have mutual attraction etc. then it should be all set. Everything else will fall into place eventually.
2007-02-21 10:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by bL@(kR0s3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the attraction you both feel for each other is LOVE, then wait--
cool your jets and be patient. Sex will happen. But, if the emotion between you is infatuation, then it would be a HUGE
mistake to force sex into the relationship. Wait several months
to see if your emotion is true LOVE. If it IS, all of your hopes will
naturally fall into place.
2007-02-21 10:07:33 · answer #4 · answered by SlownEasy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU'VE NEVER HEARD OF A GUY WHO WON'T HAVE SEX WITH YOU EVEN THOUGH HE WANTS TO?? Maybe you should think that through. Some people don't always see sex as something that they should do if they want to. It's a complicated matter of morals, emotions, religion and simply how hot you are. I guess it all depends on his history. If he has been sleeping with girls alot in his life than he might be desensitized to that point of veiw, but if he hasn't, or he's been hurt alot, he may not want ot jump right into bed with you. I am a teenager raised christian, so that is battle in my mind as well.
2007-02-21 10:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by dropdeadchicken28 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When it's right you'll know. You won't have to worry about the "transitoin" it'll just happen. If it's ment to happen don't hurry it along. Both of you are probably just not ready to take that step yet. He might also be afriad of certain issues ..."pregnancy, HIVS.. etc..* You should talk about it and ask him how he feels... if he says that he just doesn't want to don't push the issue... if no he may just be waiting for when it feels right to him... good luck .. hope the right thing happens...
2007-02-21 10:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by sweetheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you both know that you are ready and that you want to have sex so I think one of you have to make the move cause you both are thinking that the other person should start the move. But well if you are not feeling to have to do it soon then I guess you could wait a bit longer
2007-02-21 09:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by abeshawiwe!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes guys just freeze up! It's inexplainable. But try to talk to your guy and ease into it. If he still won't give in ask him about it. What makes a great relationship isn't about the sex, it should be about communication. Whatever your decision talk about it with him. It could be that he doesn't want to ruin the relationship. Hope this helps.
2007-02-21 10:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the words of John Legend: "take it slow"! Obviously, it doesn't feel right to one or both of you to go there for whatever reason. Talk about it, flirt with him about it. If he's defensive or doesn't want to talk about it, then he's probably not comfortable enough to do it yet. Be patient.
Like Janet Jackson says, it's "worth the wait".
2007-02-21 10:00:05 · answer #9 · answered by kevness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait for the right time cause if you rush things, you'll never know what's gonna happen next. You might scare him away. He respect you that's why he's not making a move. It will come don't try to rush things.
2007-02-21 09:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by rosemarie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋