Im a 40yr. old woman who hasnt dated in over 10yrs. by choice, mainly because I was really hurt with my last relationship I decided to step away and analyze myself and heal...With that said I decided in this new yr. 2007 that I would like to start up a meaningful relationship with a nice guy and see where it goes, I happen to be very marriage minded, but of course I want to take things slowly and see where we end up...Well one day while at the mall shopping {my favorite past time}; I inadvertedly bumped into an old flame, it was really nice to see him, we exchanged numbers and that night talked on the phone for hrs. he came over the next day and spent some time with me, and we've been dating every since {just 4 weeks ago now}; anywho, he has some things about him I'm not too keen about he's very religious, while that doesnt bother me because I too believe in a higher power, what he says bothers me...I'm nearly out of room here but if you want to know more email me, I need advice badly.
2007-02-21 09:44:09 · 3 answers · asked by cranberry_juice33 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont have a problem with him being religious heck I'm religious too...its just the things that he says like he feels the woman is the weaker vessel and that the woman should be submissive to her mate, I kinda sorta have a problem with that whole senario, I do believe in God and respect and honor his word, but this guy is too darn demanding, he has a problem with my shopping true I am a shop-a-holic but I work hard to do just that, and all my bills are taken care of including my children, I dont know I'm just not liking the fact that he wants to change me into something I dont think I can be, I dont know why he cant just like/love me the way I am, believe me in a relationship I know my place as a woman I learned that early on, however I also feel like my opinion should be honored equally as the man's, I'm his mate not his doormat....
2007-02-21 10:20:10 · update #1
we never really dated before, we always were attracted to eachother, but circumstances prevented us from dating one another, until recently...
perhaps I am desperate, it has been a long time since I've dated anyone...
2007-02-21 10:22:03 · update #2
Your old enough to know how you want to spend the rest of your life. These things he does that bother you... just how much do they bother you and are they things you can live with? Dont settle for second best. There is someone out there for all of us.
2007-02-21 09:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was a reason he was an old flame. Did you break up with him ? If you did has the reason changed or are you just a bit more desperate ? (sorry , dont know how else to say it )
If his religious views bother you then I would suggest you look elsewhere.
2007-02-21 18:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, are you wanting to get married or just date? If your wanting more then you should consider what things the two of you have in common and go from there. If the religion thing is a bother then you should address it with him! Talking is the best way to enhance ones relationship!
2007-02-21 17:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Sparkling♥Jules♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋