I slap my boyfriend when he gets me angry and I call him stupid. I don't really mean it though.He tells me that when I hit him it doesn't hurt!
2007-02-21 09:33:34 · 27 answers · asked by Liberal City 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you are not abusive it is just a reaction to his action(s) I understand that you hit him but it is only when you are mad. Most women slap their man like that they deserve it and as long as it isn't in the face you are strictly giving him the message that you are pissed. But if you guys find yourselves getting into many more arguments and they get serious then seek counselling it worked for me!!:)
2007-02-21 09:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 6⤋
Yes u r being abusive and not just physically but emotionally to.When u call someone stupid enough times and it comes from someone who suppose to love you, u eventually without realizing it but u end up believing it.even though u say u didn't mean it u said it n u can't take back words.U might want to take an anger management course it works well for some people and it helps u learn the best way for you to deal with your anger in the right way n without hurting others in the process.Good luck n it's a start that at least your seeing what your doing n hopefully trying to do something to make it better n not just for the relationship but for u as well.Well Ciao 4 now n have a great wk.
2007-02-21 17:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes Hitting is Physical abusive and calling someone names is emotional/mental abusive. When you get that mad take a step back and get in control of your self. Take a walk, go in another room ask for a few minutes alone if you need to. Sometimes keepin a journal can help you get your frustrations out as well.
Look at the reason that your letting your emotions get out of control for. Is there another way you can handle this situation, without hitting him or calling him names. Did someone hit or call you names in your past? Or maybe your just going through a really stressful time.
Get ahold of your local mental health agency and talk to a counselor and they can help you learn ways in dealing with your anger problem before you hurt someone. I give you alot of credit that you want to know if what your doing is wrong, that is a first step. good luck.
2007-02-21 17:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully the next time you slap him, he will slap you back and you can see what its like for someone who supposedly loves you hits you because they have no self-control! Let me know how that works out for you. Oh damn I didnt answer the question....YES you are an abuser.
2007-02-21 17:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't slap my boyfriend when I get mad. I tell him why I am mad. I tell him I am in a bad mood. He usually changes it with a joke. I never would hit my baby or all him names. I mainly tell him he's sexy. I think that if a lady loves her man, she ought to let him know it or he'll go get it from some other lady.......
2007-02-21 17:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by marquella_la_nice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself do you care for him??? Why would you put your hands on someone who does not hit you . I think you are a coward
and need help, because you know in your heart that he is not go to hit you back!!!
Seek help before someone ends up in jail or the grave.
2007-02-21 17:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by Toni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurt him or not... it's abusive. What if the tables were turned and he didn't hit you hard enough to hurt you? Would you consider that abusive?
2007-02-21 17:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by frieburger 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he slapped you he;d b in court serving hard time. It is abuse and it prolly does hurt him. He jus doesnt say cause who wants to be beat up from their gf
2007-02-21 17:37:13 · answer #8 · answered by Calvin B 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask?
It's not only the pain that matters: It's disrespectful.
How would you feel if he slapped you?
2007-02-21 17:37:55 · answer #9 · answered by KT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those are definitely abusive tendencies, at least. I would recommend finding a different way to express your anger.
2007-02-21 17:36:35 · answer #10 · answered by Meg M 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋