how can i get my boyfriend to last longer and spend more time on foreplay?

Question

He is too quick! Sometimes he takes longer and slows down...but in general he finishes up in a few minutes. Any tips?!

Answer 1

tell him to slow down when he's about to go...and he has to practice by himself too.

Answer 2

There are number of things you can do.

Your boyfriend can mastubate before engaging in full-on sex. That way, he curb his urges and be able to focus on foreplay. The penis will also be less sensitive and thus takes longer to ejaculate.

There are condoms like Durex's Performax, which contains climax control lubricant on the inside to delay ejaculation.

He can also use a ********, which is inserted right after he got his erection. It helps holding the blood in and therefore longer erection.

I also find that the girl-on-top position last a lot longer. You might have some discomfort, however, if his penis is long because of the deep penatration.

But my feeling is that you're not communicating with your boyfriend enough. Longer sex doesn't always mean good sex. You should let him know about your needs.

Answer 3

Ok, many things. But to make it short:

Try to make him concentrate more into you and to forget about himself. There is a lot of work to do to please a woman the right way while we guys can be pleased in no time and trust me, it feels good 99.99% of the time.

I assume you two are young; so let me tell you a little secret. Go online and look for the PC muscle. It is used to induce the orgasm most of the time on both males and females. You will find lots of info about it online. The main thing here is to gain some control over it and to let it relax while having sex. In case you wonder, the PC muscle is the one that you use also to cut the stream when urinating. If he holds it, it will make him climax faster. If he can relax it, he will last longer.

Search also for techniques online. There are many. I do not recommend the one that everybody says (to make him think of something else) as then I would ask and what is the point then to have sex if you can enjoy it? But there are many others, like to stop when he is close to climax, and relax, and then start again.

Last, you can also have a “quick” one with him, let him “explode” his urge, and then let him relax while he pleases you all over again. You will enjoy it, and he will “recharge” while doing it, and will get the urge to do it again soon as he is getting exited by the fact he is exiting you. When doing it the second time, he will last longer. And same for the third and so on (but don’t kill him! LOL).

Also, using pills like Viagra can help, but is not recommended if there is no actual “malfunction” on him. Try to stay “natural” if you can. Of course, the use of toys can help too to get you there soon, but is better to use them to get you there multiple times (multiple orgasms), don’t you think?

Good luck and have fun!

Answer 4

The more friction in sex leads to a quicker release. Thus, he needs to try at least 4 different sex positions with you. Every time you guys try a different position, he will have to pull it out. This will cool him off a little. With 4 different positions, he should last a good while. Also, tell him to think about baseball or sports when he feels he is getting too close. This also helps slow down the process. Try it and let me know.

Answer 5

Right when he's getting ready to "go" tell him to focus on something else that cools him down a little and then resume when he's not on the brink. After a few times of this, not only will he last longer, but the buildup will make for a more powerful explosin. At least that's what Cosmo says...

Answer 6

Tell him if he feels like he is going to go before you to stop and rest for a minute and resume.And if he feels like he is going to again to take another minute rest.This can be tormenting for the minute but will greatly inprove the whole expierence.Its like the door at your favorite resteraunt.The lady has to go first.Good Luck.Let me know if this helps you Ill put the advise out there for all.

Answer 7

It sounds like he's being really selfish. Next time tell him what you need! You could also try having him stop to take a break if he gets too "close" so he doesn't finish so soon.

Answer 8

Viagra

Answer 9

One time I was intimate with my man, I told him after wards it was great but he could have been more affectionate. He sat on that thought for 2 days before he came back and complained about it, because he always thought he was getting me rock. But the end result was-he was more affectionate. Thanks for the 2.

Answer 10

have you ever tried doing to him what you want him to do unto you? If so, allow me to express my personally view, considering that I am your boyfriend, the main factor would be is that i,m not very much satisfied with ur hygiene considering that I always see to it that my woman is always worth to be more satisfied than and before me. I envy ur boyfriend having someone like you. bEDTALKS WOULD SEEM TO BE HELPFUL FOR YOU.

Answer 11

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A guy always cums fast when its their first time. and especially if he's been waiting for a long time. Guys are erect at least 5 times a day so what I would do is some foreplay until he ejaculates or the both of you for that matter its not fair that he has orgasms and you don't so get him to do you first and then once you finish he will be more than ready for his orgasm. then use a condom because that cuts down the sensations for him if he feels he is about to come prematurely then tell him to come out and do some more foreplay on you so he has time to calm down. the condom should work but if you want a baby tell him to take the condom of before ejaculation and then finish in you. the longer you wait to make him come with foreplay the quiker it will be because he has to get it out of him.

He also does need time because you are the only one he has been with so once he gets used to it, you can really enjoy it once he gets his techniques down pat. Tell him what you like. Get some books and videos also until you both are experienced. Or you could even have a quickie in the morning, when you get home and then at night. he will diffently last longer because his mind has been free twice already. You get on top of him and you control the situation. Also my boyfriend tells me that he thinks about none sexual things for a while to help control him, tell him to think about a sport or something that calms him. If that doesn't work then just do IT over until you are satisfied