K so my gf and i have kinda been fighting. And she moved in with me about 2 months ago he mom has been trying to get her to move back with her 1000 miles away. She did live with her uncles they kicked her out sorta. Now her mom is coming here in a week to get her shes 17 will be 18 in 6 months i dont want her to leave. She doesnt seem to be trying not to go. She tells me it will make us stronger i dont believe her. She says when she turns 18 she'll come back. I dont know what to do. I dont know if i should break it off now or wait and see 6 months down the road. Ive been with her for more than a year i do love her. But it just doesnt seem right. Doesnt seem like shes fighting having to go. I dont know what to do or say anymore. A part of me wants to break it off but another parts wants to spend the rest of my life with her. I dont know if shes doing this cuz she doesnt want to be with me or she really has to go and does love me i have no idea plz help
2007-02-21 09:16:05 · 12 answers · asked by seandudczak 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
typo 2nd sentence its "her" not he sorry!!
2007-02-21 09:17:19 · update #1
You can wait the 6 months, you have your whole life in front of you, and maybe your girlfriend needs to live with her mother, it is her MOTHER. You are thinking more about what you want then what your girlfriend needs in her life. She says that she wants to be with you and that she will come back, do you not trust that? You need to trust her and if you have worries about her being true why? Why do you want to break it off, because she will not be right next to you for 6 months, you can still talk online and on the phone. It will make you stronger, it will show that you can live as a couple but you don't have to be together all the time. You need to sit her down and talk to her, and tell her how you are feeling, she is probably scared that you don't want to stay with her and for good reason. I mean you are acting like it is the end of the world, it is 6 months, be strong and tell her how much you love her and how much you can't wait to see her again. Make her feel good, make her feel that you support her decision.
2007-02-21 09:21:37 · answer #1 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just let her go since she's not making any effort to stay. If you don't believe her when she says it will make you guys stronger you know her better than any fo us. I would just leave it and wait a few weeks and see if she still feels the same. Putting your life on hold for 6 months and not knowing if she really will be back and then having your heart broken further doesn't seem right. Unless you can visit her in that 6 month period just to keep that contact happening. If your in doubt about your relationship then maybe that break will make you think about what you really want and same goes for her. I hope I helped some. Good luck.
2007-02-21 09:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 1st of all i know u say ur in luv but ur being selfish right now.. everything i read is about u, u, u and how u feel.. What about how she feels.. a relationship is a 2 way street and she can't just do what's best for u or u and her as a whole but she has to do what is best for her 1st and if that means space then give it to her.. all u can do is tell her how u feel and wait... now if u wanna be all impatient and act like the only way u and her can be together is if ur living together than ur not mature at all and maybe u should just move on... For goodness sake she's not even legal yet... Moving in together is a major move and it is a major responsibility and u said it urself u and her been kind of fighting!!! what a way to sugar coat what really is going on... Give her space and fall back and re-think ur living situation and ur relationship is my suggestion and also if she does come back it doesn't mean u and her have to live together....
2007-02-21 09:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh mate - I feel sorry for you. She probably won't be back when she turns 18. It is merely a gentle way to let you know she's outta here. The fighting aside, the dominant mother figure (and she is dominant as she is 1000 miles away and can still convince her to come back "home"). I say call it quits, have a break and heal a little and move on without another thought. She may simply not be ready for the full commitment of living together and her mum has offered her an easy out.
2007-02-21 09:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um. This is over. Just accept it and be careful because you could be arrested for statutory rape in a lot states.
Her mother wants her home and she is too young to be deciding to get married etc....
Find a more mature girl and move on....lots of fish in the sea. Just let her go....
2007-02-21 09:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by cathoratio 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of the respond is in the reality that she is shifting one hundred miles away. Please attempt to enable her flow as there is not any longer something extra you're able to do to get your courting lower back. i do no longer understand how previous you're yet i'm specific you will discover somebody else to love. reliable good fortune sooner or later.
2016-10-16 04:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by balick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend some time apart from her to sort out your feelings.
2007-02-21 09:20:30 · answer #7 · answered by sanj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
other than the boning...I can't think of one good reason to want to live with a 17 year old...count your blessings...your free, enjoy life a bit!!!
2007-02-21 09:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tough break dude you gotta keep in touch 24 7 you and your girl will meet again
2007-02-21 09:18:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok sweetheart i think you need to let her go ! Always remember this:
IF YOU LOVE SOMETHING LET IT GO, IF IT COMES BACK TO YOU IT'S YOURS, IF IT DOESN'T IT NEVER WAS!
It helped me ...I live by this rule
so good luck
God Bless!
2007-02-21 09:21:31 · answer #10 · answered by Zolyshka 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋