My husbands mom passed away last night, she has been ill forever, fighting diabetes, kidney?

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transplant, lots of code blues and a pace maker, she had such a will to live! I haven't dealt with a death since elementary school and I feel so terrible, it's like there is something holding me back from accepting this, and my heart is broken for her husband, he took care of her for years and he is all alone now, any advice

Answer 1

Hold his hand. Support him.

My sympathies on your loss...

Answer 2

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Answer 3

What you describe is this couple beginning to find the calm at the end of a very long and scarry storm. She is finally free of pain, and he can finally greive for someone he lost long ago. He is not alone. Just listen to yourself and how much you care. No one can help him get through this, but he is probably very tired emotionally, cannot allow himself to feel relief, even though he knows that this is better. Guilt will prevent that. Be there like you are, so he doesn't have to worry about the rest of the family, and he will make it at his own pace. My best to you all, and give your husband and yourself a hug.

Answer 4

Its gonna be a tough time, just be there for him, tell him he can come and talk to you at anytime of the day to talk about his mother, Practically everyone is the most close to their mother, and their kids. It'll just take a little bit of time till the emotions of losing a mom, lets up a little, but It'll never go away, he'll think of her every day. Remind him of all the great time he spent with her.

This makes me sad due to my mom, not doing well, quite depressed, and not taking care of herself, I'm gonna be devastated when she goes. When she does I'll remember all the times, we would go to the local baseball games (minor league) and have a coke, and some popcorn and hot dogs. And going to a pitcher show to watch the GB Packers play.

Answer 5

First, let me offer my sincere condolences.

The death is so new, acceptance takes time and grief will enfold naturally and uniquely for each person.

Be extra kind to yourself and each other in this time of crisis. Be there for her husband- be available for whatever it is he needs.

If the time is appropriate, talk about all the good times you had with her, look at pictures, share stories. She will always live on in your hearts.

But above all, don't push yourself. Each person's grief is very individual. There is never a right or wrong answer. Good luck to you and your family.

Answer 6

He's not alone dear he has YOU!!!!! You will not by any means fill his mother's place. But let him know your there with a simple touch or wink of the eye or smile. Don't pamper him, he needs to mourn for his loss, and all are different in that department. Losing a parent is tough very tough, but that parent has taught you what they know and they want you to move on and live the life they had dreamed of for you to live. Remind him his mother will always be with him, in his heart, his actions, his thoughts. The way he deals with things in life on a general. So for you it simply, Just be there....So sorry for both your loses....

Answer 7

"If someone you care about has lost a loved one, you can help them through the grieving process.

* Share the sorrow. Allow them — even encourage them — to talk about their feelings of loss and share memories of the deceased.
* Don’t offer false comfort. It doesn’t help the grieving person when you say “it was for the best” or “you’ll get over it in time.” Instead, offer a simple expression of sorrow and take time to listen.
* Offer practical help. Baby-sitting, cooking and running errands are all ways to help someone who is in the midst of grieving.
* Be patient. Remember that it can take a long time to recover from a major loss. Make yourself available to talk.
* Encourage professional help when necessary. Don’t hesitate to recommend professional help when you feel someone is experiencing too much pain to cope alone."http://www.healthyplace.com/Communities/depression/related/loss_grief.asp

If you are not accepting the death, you might be in denial. You are not ready to grieve. You will eventually accept the fact that she died, and you will hurt. But be encouraged that the hurt is for a period of time, then it gets easier.

Answer 8

I'm sorry for your loss. My Mom passed away from diabetic complications too. Mom was on life support, and just talking about it really hurts. Make sure your Father-in-law doesn't shut out the world. Sure, it's going to hurt, but Love and time will ease it.

Answer 9

Okayyyyy

Answer 10

my fiancees father passed suddenly of a blood clot a couple of years ago...devasted doesnt describe the feelings of anyone who knew this generous and kind man...

my advice to you...is just to be there...to this day her family trusts, has faith, and adores me for how i stood up while others fell away...

Answer 11

it takes awhile for things to sink in...take it slow and talk about the good times and be there for your husband, he really needs you.

I am so sorry for your loss....may you find the strength through this time of need and the wisdom to share with your husband!