We both want to keep it simple and low stress but I'm worried that both families want to do things their way - but I want to make sure I enjoy my wedding day.
2007-02-21 09:13:05 · 18 answers · asked by flamingo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Best is registered marriage or Court marriage as you call it is solemnized under the Special Marriage Act, 1954 all such marriages can take place between any two Indian citizens irrespective of their religion, caste or creed, and you can say this is the secular form of marriage available in our country. Such a marriage is solemnized before the marriage officer/registrar usually D.C. deputy commissioner of the area (Sub registrar is the marriage officer/registrar only in case the already solemnized marriage under any other Act has to be registered) where both or any of the parties to such a marriage reside. Cost of such a marriage is merely Rs90/- or as the rate prevalent in your area. Now how you proceed? Both the parties to the marriage file a joint application before the marriage officer along with individual affidavit attested by notary public specifying the age(boy 21yrs &girl 18yrs), place of residence, marital status(unmarried or divorcee as the case maybe), mental status(not idiot or not with unfit mind), not related to each other. Along with this you have to give proof of age , proof of residence, & the application of such a marriage should be witnessed by 3 independent adult persons, affix one photograph of each of the parties & all the 3 witnesses. You have made such an application to the marriage officer in person along with all the 3 witnesses. On receiving such an application the marriage officer issues a month notice regarding the intended marriage & get such a notice affixed on the notice board out side his office, a copy of such notice is sent to the marriage officer under whose jurisdiction the other party lives, also a copy is to the individual parties address. After expiry of the period of notice a date is fixed on which all the persons parties to the marriage & 3 witnesses appear again before the marriage officer who declare them married & issue a certificate to this regard. This is the brief procedure I have told you here, incase you want any clarification you can always email me directly.
2007-02-23 00:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are a few suggestions 1- Have a non-denominational wedding, that way no one is offended or left out. 2- Have a wedding where both religions are represented at the same time. Have two officiants that either do one ceremony after the other, or go back and forth during one ceremony. 3- Have two wedding days where each day one of the two religions is represented (not a joke, I have seen it done) and each side of the family can throw the wedding for you.
2007-02-21 21:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a way for both sides to b happy and u can do it by you picking which part u want to celebrate your way.U can do the wedding part your way and do the party part his way or just elope if it becomes to much to the point the family doesn't care what u want n that they want it there way.LOL..... that is what I would do.U could always do it both ways if they r willing to pay for u to do it there way then u can do that to.I know of a couple people that have had 2 wedding to plz the family as well.It's pretty sad considering it's the lady and husband to be's day n not anyone elses.Good luck n congrats.
2007-02-21 17:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have three welding.
1. Simple and low stress.
2. By flipin coin one 1st anivesery, get the blessing from one of the priest.
3. On the 2Sd aniversary, get the other priest to give blessing, keep both the family happy. At a small get togethere toss a coin in front of all parents, and let them know the plan.
2007-02-21 17:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dang thats tough. I dont think there is a wedding ceremony that could truly satisfy both sides. Maybe a non-religious ceremony is a good idea. Its not what either side wants, but at the same time its not offensive to either side. We can call that Plan A.
Plan B: Elope
2007-02-21 17:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What ever make to 2 happy because at the end of the you 2 will remember this day not everone else. If the 2 of you are happy then all the family member should be happy as well.
2007-02-21 21:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by Abhijat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, you can get married twice at the same time, by authorities (priests?) from both religions. That won't complicate to much. About your families, remember them, you two are whom are getting married. It's your wedding. Not theirs. Be firm. And organize it as you like. Be sure to enjoy it. Its a very special moment in your life.
2007-02-21 17:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by robertonereo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all this is you & your fiancee day not your families. Your families are there to support you not take over your special day. You both can decorate with hindu and Buddihist themes that express both families beliefs. But again remeber thisw is both your special day. Congradulations!
2007-02-22 00:41:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddha was also Hindu but slightly more refined one so there should be know problem if you find out the middle path to satisfy both families
2007-02-22 00:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by Father 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all both of you decide what kind of a wedding do you want? then try convincing your families. After all you decided to get married without their consent. why give in at this point. Just be firm. they will come around.
2007-02-21 18:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by kumarcl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋