been with my boyfriend for almost five years now. we started dating at the age of 18. we broke up once last year but we got back together. when we did get back together he gave me a promise ring and told me that in a year he would propose. of course i was so happy thinking that he wanted to get married soon. anyway a year has come and gone and now he is saying that he doesnt want to rush into getting engaged, and that he isnt ready. he says when the time is right we will get engaged, and he dosent know when that will be. but i have a feeling that its not going to be soon. i just dont see how he could be so certain that he wanted to propose and now its like he completely changed his mind. i asked him if he was having doubts about us as a couple but he says thats not it. i cant help but think hes just stringing me along. i feel like weve been together long enough for him to know if im "the one." i dont want to push him into anything but i dont want to wait around forever. what to do?
2007-02-21 09:07:27 · 3 answers · asked by kristen s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's stringing you along while he trolls for someone better.
2007-02-21 09:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are JUST dating then he may not be sure you are the one he wants. Have both of you dated other people in the past ?
If you are living tiogether and having sex then why does he need to get engaged or married. ?
Depending on what state you live in you might try to find out if there is a "common law" marriage. The state may already consider you to be married .
You have been together long enough that he should know where the relationship is going , although at your age that may have included part of high school and university.
Its really your choice, do you want to stay with him and wait, or do you want to find someone who wants what you do ?
I'd be very careful about birth control , if you dont have kids , then make sure you dont have any.
2007-02-21 09:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Point is he doesn't have to marry you .
He gets everything he wants without marriage.
This is why we old people expected a ring, church, preacher and then sex.
Five years is not rushing, it is procrastination. He is not grown up enough to make a serious commitment.
If I were you I would start planning for an independent life unless you want to waste more years on someone who does not want what you want. He is not on the same page as you, you do not want the same things in life.
2007-02-21 09:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋