Has any body ever known a person who was very close to God that people were somehow drawn to with no logical explanation? some one who was so loving and compassionate that you couldnt help but love them?and then knowing that a man like this is rare on earth lose him to death? this has happened to me. the man i l just described was my father. he died in september of 2006. but the pain i feel is as strong as it was when we lost him. i have accepted the fact that he is gone and that i will not see him again till judgement. but how long will it take for the pain to ease. does it hurt more because of the miscairage i had the january before he died, or the one i had this January. the pain is overwhelming and it is hard to believe it will ease. but how do you push the type of pain i am feeling away? how can i find a way to focus my pain on something else? why do i feel so lost?
2007-02-21 08:58:46 · 12 answers · asked by Thumbs down me now 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Everyone feels pain for a long time when they lose someone they love and in time it will slowly go away. It sounds like your father probably was like a compass for you, and now that he's gone you of course you will feel lost. People are valuable to each other so we can't expect ourselves to heal overnight. Of course having a miscarriage on top of it all will add to it. I don't think you can push your pain away, but if you feel up to it maybe you could try to immerse yourself in some kind of volunteer work to keep your mind off of things. It also wouldn't hurt to first get a general check-up to make sure you take care of your health right now. You might be neglecting yourself because of your pain, which will worsen your grief or some of the hormones associated with pregnancy might be making it difficult to cope. Give yourself enough time to grieve, September is not that long ago in terms of human loss.
2007-02-21 09:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by l m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Father died when I was 5. I still miss him and I am crying right now. I am so sorry for your loss. Your pain will ease. You have hope with confidence. Your father sounds like a wonderful man. Trust in the Lord. He will bless you through this. All things work together for good,even though they do not seem good.
God can turn suffering into blessing. May the Holy Spirit comfort you. May your gaurdian angel help you. There is peace in His word.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Peace out.
2007-02-21 09:11:59 · answer #2 · answered by Lucy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dang! You have been going through soooo much. This world is so full of sadness and suffering, Rely on God for He is our rock and fortress! That is where you can focus your pain, in Him. He will never tier from hearing it...
"For the Lord has heard the voice of my weeping. The Lord has heard my supplication: The Lord will receive my prayer" Psalm 6:8
"But may the God of all grace, who called us to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen and settle you" I Peter 5:10
"For I will turn their mourning to joy, Will comfort them, And make them rejoice rather that sorrow" Jeremiah 31
2007-02-21 09:09:56 · answer #3 · answered by ommie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of coarse it's God coming through that person and showing in them so powerfully it pulls you.
you can get what they have or had that you are so attracted to just trust God live with Him let Him live in you.
I am sorry about your Dad and the pain will ease look to God for the help I'm sure that's what your Dad did.
I know you will find what your looking for.
Love ya and God bless
2007-02-21 09:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal Blue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the kind of pain you are feeling there is no way you can compare ,physical heals the kind of pain you are feeling is always there it will numb as years go by but it will never heal we dont want to forget our loved ones or want them to be forgotten so we know their spirit is alive in us,the love ,morals caring and everything they have given us we will carry to our loved ones losing someone that you love so dear leaves a hole in your heart i am not sure that trying to focus on something else would have helped me i think facing the fact that they arent going to be there reinforced the things they left in me i did focus on God and knowing that they are with Him i know that they are with me everyday,usually my mom chewing on my rump about the way i did something wrong(haha)they are still with you ..........God Bless
2007-02-21 09:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetheart, I'm so sorry for you. I don't know how to answer your questions, I haven't experienced what you have, so I can't relate to what you're going through. Maybe try to find someone to talk to, I don't know..But, I'll tell you one thing, my heart bleeds for you and I will think of you and pray for you and hope that it will help. I hope you find your way love.
2007-02-21 09:07:09 · answer #6 · answered by Just Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pain can be overwhelming and no logic is often obvious in it. You
can live as a victim of your pain and that's fine if it works for you,but does it? Or you can search for the lesson in that pain and
use that lesson to cure your heart and perhaps reach out to others in similar circumstances and help them.
2007-02-21 09:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by royce r 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Wow kid. you have some serious issues and it'd take a book to answer. A real good friend to listen would help you a lot.
2007-02-21 09:02:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Focus on the fact that you WILL see him again.
The early saints had a very similar bond with the prophet of the restoration, Joseph Smith. It was through this prophet that the restored truth of eternal families was revealed. It may be of interest to you.
2007-02-21 09:03:10 · answer #9 · answered by Open Heart Searchery 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yes I know a sweet minister and everyone loves him but his silly wife who gave him grief...His personality is great..
2007-02-21 09:08:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋